Gettingtired Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Hey everyone. Just randomly came across this site and would like to try and get some perspective on my recent "relationship"... Was seeing this girl for over 6 weeks [not long, I know]. She did originally say that we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend but we weren't sex buddies either. Saw each other pretty much every day. I even travelled to the bottom end of the country to be with her for the weekend, met her parents and everything [she also said this visit wasn't a big deal, nothing serious......???] So like I said, was with her on a night, every day pretty much for 6 weeks. Spent $200+ on her for her birthday which was on the Friday. Come the Sunday she went out, got wasted and slept with some guy. She had him in her room the Tuesday beforehand, he told her he liked her, but she said she wasn't interested, but thought he was a lovely guy. So when I found out what she did, I felt so cheated on, disrespected and allsorts. But due to her saying we weren't BF & GF from the start made everything ok [in her mind]. She even said the day after I found out, after speaking with her friends and explaining things, she shouldn't have felt guilty for what had happened...... Have I just fallen for her a bit too much due to spending so much time with her, visiting her house etc and totally misunderstood the situation. OR Am I right to be pissed off and feel like I've been treat like a twat? Why would you spend everyday with someone, invite them to your home and introduce them to your parents etc, and then not really care when you sleep with someone else as at the end of the day you weren't BF & GF so there was no committment there in the first place? Opinions very much welcome.
lkjh Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 either way shes pretty loose so why would you want to be with her?
robdrm32 Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 I kind of see both sides of this, on the one hand you feel slighted because of the time you had been spending together etc. and on the other she has told you all along its nothing serious. Maybe she is at terms with who she is and knows she cant be committed so she was upfront with you. You were her entertainment for 6 weeks, she could have been a bitch about it, and said you were together, then went and did the same thing so count yourself lucky and know going forth what kind of person she really is. I don't agree with her choices but it does sound like she was upfront with you yet you still have feelings. either you can be with her and not care or you cant be with her in any sense. If you differ on her life choices that's fine but I think you should respect her honesty and accept shes a hoochie.
Author Gettingtired Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 Thanks for replies guys. She is a bit loose. At just gone 22 she's slept with over 40 guys so far, losing her virginity at 17. I should've realised what type of person she was as when we started out, to get her point across about not being BF & GF she said "We're seeing each other, but it's not serious, you know, it's not Facebook official". I just thought we had something together, but I guess it was more just convenience for her at the end of the day.
Author Gettingtired Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 Thanks for the replies everyone. Just thought it might have gone somewhere with her. Spent loads of time together and thought she really liked me. But obviously she had no intention on letting it go anywhere. Just wish I'd done what I said I was going to do and not let myself fall for her. Oh well, you live and learn.
Author Gettingtired Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 Yeah she is, just turned 22. Well it only takes the once to learn from your mistakes. The thing that mainly pee's me off and upsets me is how she doesn't really give a crap that sleeping with the other guy doesn't matter as she originally told me we weren't committed to each other. Feel like such a mug, thinking that what we had together mattered to her as much as it did to me. Obviously not.
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