trueloveexists Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 My boyfriend and I see each other only about 1 day a week (we live about 10 min away from one another). We both have jobs that conflict with each other, which I guess you could say is part of the reason why we don't spend time together very much, but definitely not the entire reason. He spends the majority of his free time with his friends, even on a rare occasion when we both have the same day off. He hangs out with them almost every single night he works (they stay at his place through all hours of the night), and he works with quite a few of his friends. Since I still live with my parents and have to respect their wish that they want me home at a certain hour, it makes it even more difficult to spend time with him (this is obviously not his fault, but he has no problem spending the entire day with his friends, including the entire night.. When he could have spent some of that time with me and had them over later since none of them have curfews). So, last night, he asked me if I was working today. When I told him I was off, he responds by saying "Oh, I thought you were working so I made plans." (He went to the movies with his friends last night and is going again tonight) I have had EVERY single Friday off for the past month and a half, and he is aware of that. I asked him why he didn't ask me if I was working before he made plans, and he didn't have anything to say. Except "Sorry." He knew I was hurt and I even tried to explain to him why I felt the way I did, but he didn't have much of a response. Only "Thanks for making me feel like crap" and a few more "I'm sorrys". I feel like if he cared and did want to see me, he would find the time. I am nothing but nice to him and go out of my way for him constantly, but it never seems to be reciprocated. Am I wrong for reacting/feeling this way?
Serenitynow Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Just dump the loser. You are on the back burner for him when he feels like doing something. If you want to date someone that actually spends time with you than get rid of this guy. Oh and when he whines and says hes gonna change, and not to break up with him, dont listen to him. He will fall right back into the same habit. .
norajane Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I feel like if he cared and did want to see me, he would find the time. Yes, that's correct. He'd make plans with you ahead of time to make sure when you were off and available, and he'd plan his other crap around your date. Dump him. There are plenty of guys out there who would treat you much better.
make me believe Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I agree with the previous posters. Your boyfriend is more interested in hanging out with his friends than you. That sucks, but you're better off finding somebody who WANTS to spend time with you and who makes time for you. My boyfriend and I worked very different schedules until I was laid off (I worked 10-6 and he worked 3-11) but we still saw each other all weekend and one night during the week. We made time for each other and never put each other on the back burner like your BF is doing.
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