Lucky555 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 As I got over the guy I had posted here. I asked why he had been contacting me after basically decieving me! The guy that went Out with his ex and was seeing me! He and I were supposedly back together. Well till I found out she was in hia place. The fact is it Broke trust. He and I have known eachother for three years and I asked him if he was done with his ex. He told me he had little To no contact. Anyways I ended communication And then after a couple months he contacts me and talks to me and recently just tried to flirt with me. I thought to give him an opportunity To redeem himself but he is just a jerk for thinking I'm going to flirt and Pretend like everything is normal. He lied to me and the fact that he told me he didn't have time to see me but could have his ex in his house and Take her out to dinner is a huge problem. I am tired of dating jerks! However I am going to focus on better things and myself. He obviously is also trying to be a player and get attention. This week he spent a lot of time talking to me and never mentioned a thing about his wrong doings. I know no one is perfect but this guy really doesn't deserve me. I am just so done with his excuses and bs that I am done! Ha! It's funny how he contacted me and never once asked me how I am but he could bring up a random topic like having skills in the bedroom. Seriously I just laughed because it was so pathetic. So the last drama I may have To deal with is our mutual friend saying how I am going To miss am opportunity. The friend is moreso on the guys side than Mine becuase I didn't tell him the other crap he has done too. So what is the best thing too say to the friend about the breakup. The guy is going to tell the friend how I am wrong and how he didn't do anything wrong. I just hate how the guy got our friend invovled in order to get To me. The friend is a guy so he will not understand. Only because he wants to see the guy and I together because he doesn't know the full Story.
harmfulsweetz Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 As I got over the guy I had posted here. I asked why he had been contacting me after basically decieving me! The guy that went Out with his ex and was seeing me! He and I were supposedly back together. Well till I found out she was in hia place. The fact is it Broke trust. He and I have known eachother for three years and I asked him if he was done with his ex. He told me he had little To no contact. Anyways I ended communication And then after a couple months he contacts me and talks to me and recently just tried to flirt with me. I thought to give him an opportunity To redeem himself but he is just a jerk for thinking I'm going to flirt and Pretend like everything is normal. He lied to me and the fact that he told me he didn't have time to see me but could have his ex in his house and Take her out to dinner is a huge problem. I am tired of dating jerks! However I am going to focus on better things and myself. He obviously is also trying to be a player and get attention. This week he spent a lot of time talking to me and never mentioned a thing about his wrong doings. I know no one is perfect but this guy really doesn't deserve me. I am just so done with his excuses and bs that I am done! Ha! It's funny how he contacted me and never once asked me how I am but he could bring up a random topic like having skills in the bedroom. Seriously I just laughed because it was so pathetic. So the last drama I may have To deal with is our mutual friend saying how I am going To miss am opportunity. The friend is moreso on the guys side than Mine becuase I didn't tell him the other crap he has done too. So what is the best thing too say to the friend about the breakup. The guy is going to tell the friend how I am wrong and how he didn't do anything wrong. I just hate how the guy got our friend invovled in order to get To me. The friend is a guy so he will not understand. Only because he wants to see the guy and I together because he doesn't know the full Story. Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things? If the 'friend' wants to get in your business, so be it, tell him to keep his nose out, end of. It shouldn't be about proving yourself and justifying your choices to others, it's not their business to be up in in the first place.
Serenitynow Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Hes not your friend if hes causing you stress over this. And like harmfulsweets said, Who cares ? Reply to us and tell us HOW its going to make a difference if he tells him. Is the world going to explode ? It doesnt matter what they think. YOU know whats going on. thats all that matters. .
Author Lucky555 Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 (edited) well the update now is that the guy is talking to the friend to get to me. I have spoke to the guy this week. He didnt say a thing. he has had way too many chances to apologize and to say he is willing to make time, call, and be in a relationship. Really this guy is so pathetic. I have brushed the friend off when he would say things about the guy but he never did mention anything about the guy wanting to be in a relationship! I caught on really fast as to what the guy was doing. He is being a player and trying to keep me around till he decides what he wants. thats what it seems like. if he really wanted me he would have never did these past things or at least asked to repair it all the guy is terminated but i have a feeling i will hear some more bs from the friend. Edited July 3, 2010 by Lucky555
harmfulsweetz Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 well the update now is that the guy is talking to the friend to get to me. I have spoke to the guy this week. He didnt say a thing. he has had way too many chances to apologize and to say he is willing to make time, call, and be in a relationship. Really this guy is so pathetic. I have brushed the friend off when he would say things about the guy but he never did mention anything about the guy wanting to be in a relationship! I caught on really fast as to what the guy was doing. He is being a player and trying to keep me around till he decides what he wants. thats what it seems like. if he really wanted me he would have never did these past things or at least asked to repair it all the guy is terminated but i have a feeling i will hear some more bs from the friend. If that is the case-mutual friend is not a mutual friend so much as a go between between you and this guy. Question your friendship with this guy. You don't have to justify yourself to anyone, explain that he either stops what he is doing, or you will cease contact with him.
Author Lucky555 Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 If that is the case-mutual friend is not a mutual friend so much as a go between between you and this guy. Question your friendship with this guy. You don't have to justify yourself to anyone, explain that he either stops what he is doing, or you will cease contact with him. Ya i can see that this friend is way too involved but i can see how he thinks that the guy is a great guy for me because he does not know how he has treated me. THE UPDATE: Tell me what you all think of this ? Is the guy manipulating others now?? So now my sibling visited my house and I over heard him talking to my parents. The guy that likes me is a friend of his too. So the guy apparently saw my sibling and told him that what happened with the the ex was was not his fault and she just showed up at his place. The guy apparently doesn't take responsibility for letting the ex into his place and going out to dinner with her. (Seriously, is this guy a loser or what!) Well so the guy also said that when i am done with my studies soon that he is going to ask me to live with him. (Excuse me? I over heard it!) This guy and I were friends like i said but we only were exclusive for like a month till he started making excuses as to why he couldn't see me. Then i have not seen him for like four months. It was not until recently that he contact me and I have been avoiding him since!! The guy has never called me on the telephone either. He didn't take me out on dates and was not willing to take my interests into consideration. Also when i confronted him about his ex he basically thought that i was being immature. Actually i was wondering what the hell was he doing having her in his place and going out to dinner! He couldn't even take me out!!!! Another thing i don't want stds!!! Also this guy didn't act like a boyfriend or act like he wanted to be involved in a relationship. I think this guy clearly has issues to deal with and i think he is manipulating people around him so he doesn't look like the jerk. The last few times he has talked to me its been casual conversation about the weather, tv, and things like that. There was no apology and no talk about a relationship!! I will keep going NC! I actually feel much better because I know if the guy wants to contact me he can e-mail or call. Which he has not done and i don't care anymore! I am so sick of wasting my time talking to him. I also got to emotional about it because i really wanted things to work and i feel like the guy just strings me along. I took a chance and i don't regret it because i knew if he was really into me he would make time and he would call and invest himself. It seems like he just wanted just a physical relationship and then when he was lonely chat with me. Like i said i feel much better and its so much easier to focus on myself and my work. If the guy couldn't make time for me then i can't make time for him.
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