LisaUk Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Hi all, So I thought I would let all of you know that have given me so much support over the last year since my ex left that I got my Graduate Law Degree today! I don't think I could have doen it without you all. This last year and half since my ex of 18 years left me, just after we had (finally) booked our wedding, has been the toughest of my life and I don't think I would have made it this far without LS and all of you here, so THANK YOU!! As for the ex, well ***** him! I just got a law degree! Sorry, little bit pleased with my self right now, I'm starting to sound big headed so I will shut up. For those of you just starting out on the rollacoaster of betrayal, well what I will say to is this, I still strugle and I still have bad days, but have faith in yourself that you will get through this and remember above all else YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN A BETRAYING SPOUSE, YOU ARE A UNIQUE AND WORTHWHILE INDIVIDUAL AND YOU ARE NOT THE ONE WHO WALKED FROM YOUR COMMITMENTS- THIS WAS DONE TO YOU, NEVER BLAME YOURSELF!
sumdude Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Congratulations Lisa! Knew you could do it. No way do you sound big headed, you deserve to be proud of yourself!:bunny:
trippi1432 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 CONGRATULATIONS!!! There is no ego in being proud of yourself for your accomplishments, you have come far and have a lot in life to look forward to. Don't ever forget that. Huge Hugs!!! Trippi xx
Author LisaUk Posted July 2, 2010 Author Posted July 2, 2010 Thank you all very much for the support!
LittleTiger Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Congratulations Lisa! :bunny: Fantastic news!!! After everything you've been through, you deserve to be proud of yourself. It's not big headed in the least. As Trippi says, what a great future you now have to look forward to! Good for you.
hopesndreams Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN A BETRAYING SPOUSE, YOU ARE A UNIQUE AND WORTHWHILE INDIVIDUAL AND YOU ARE NOT THE ONE WHO WALKED FROM YOUR COMMITMENTS- THIS WAS DONE TO YOU, NEVER BLAME YOURSELF! This is what I truly believe in!!! For all those beating yourselves up? STOP!!! The onus is on those who have done the betraying. Blah, blah, blah about those betrayed being 50% responsible for the breakdown of the relationship. You could be a Saint and the person you love will still f*ck you over and look out for numero uno and to h*ll with your feelings. Anyways, congrats Lisa!!! You are to be admired.
2.50 a gallon Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 A solicitor with compassion, the world just got a little better! Go Girl What next? Gallon
trippi1432 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN A BETRAYING SPOUSE, YOU ARE A UNIQUE AND WORTHWHILE INDIVIDUAL AND YOU ARE NOT THE ONE WHO WALKED FROM YOUR COMMITMENTS- THIS WAS DONE TO YOU, NEVER BLAME YOURSELF! This is what I truly believe in!!! For all those beating yourselves up? STOP!!! The onus is on those who have done the betraying. Blah, blah, blah about those betrayed being 50% responsible for the breakdown of the relationship. You could be a Saint and the person you love will still f*ck you over and look out for numero uno and to h*ll with your feelings. Anyways, congrats Lisa!!! You are to be admired. WOW!! H&D.....good post....and a good reminder/lesson to learn.
hopesndreams Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Without this site, I would never have agreed to what was just written. It would have been much easier to just blame myself, beat myself up and then be mad at the world and to never love again.
tojaz Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 My deepest congratulations Lisa, there was never a doubt in my mind that you would pass with flying colors. Take great pride in your acomplishment, you deserve it all and so much more. TOJAZ
Steadfast Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Intelligent, talented and beautiful inside and out; that's you Lisa. Better look out, you know who might come sniffing around someday after realizing what he's lost. I promise you he's already thought about it and felt it. Deeply. What an inspiration! Congratulations-
whichwayisup Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 I got my Graduate Law Degree today! Congratulations! You should be so proud of yourself!!!! I dont' know you, but I'm proud of you! As for the ex, well ***** him! I just got a law degree! Exactly! Screw him and the donkey he rode in on! Sorry, little bit pleased with my self right now, I'm starting to sound big headed so I will shut up. Don't ever apologize - It's good you are feeling good and it's OK to have a big head! You've been through the wringer and suffered alot so enjoy this and make a BIG deal of it because it is a big deal. Celebrate with friends and family!
Author LisaUk Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 A solicitor with compassion, the world just got a little better! Go Girl What next? Gallon Thanks to all of you for the congrats, I'm still in shock at getting a Commendation and very relived! LOL What next? Well that was the acedemic stage, September I start the professional qualification for 10 months LPC (Law practice Course) and I have to try and secure a training contract at a law firm (TC) for two years at the end of all that I qualify as a Solicitor. It's a long road (7 years total, 4 done, 3 to go) but it will be worth it. I do intend to try and give something back, when I do finally qualify I would like to do pro bono work for the community and charities, particularly I think after all I have experienced, helping people who are seperating or divorcing who would not otherwise be able to get legal help. Here in the UK, there is legal aid availiable but many fall just above the limit, yet still strugle with the fees, or for some it isn't worth it as they have to pay it back out of their settlement. I would like to be able to offer those who can't afford it legal advise and representation that they need. Whatever happens though, I will most definately be doing some form of pro bona in addition to my fee paying work.
just_some_guy Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Congratulations Lisa and best wishes on your future happiness and prosperity.
PWSX3 Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 WAY TO GO LISA!!!!!! Yes, I'm jumping up & down for you my dear!!!!! Just one piece to the NEW Lisa!! Enjoy what you have done, there is nothing wrong with that, thanks so much for sharing it with us!!
Author LisaUk Posted July 4, 2010 Author Posted July 4, 2010 Intelligent, talented and beautiful inside and out; that's you Lisa. Better look out, you know who might come sniffing around someday after realizing what he's lost. I promise you he's already thought about it and felt it. Deeply. What an inspiration! Congratulations- Thanks Steadfast and to all that gave me congrats! I doubt very much that my ex has any regret, no sign of it anyway, plus he does not know anything about me, he has not contacted me at all in over a year. Literally cut out after 18 years. It's not that I am bothered anymore, I'm not in that I don't want him back and wouldn't take him back if he asked, BUT, I would like the opportunity to say that to him. Bitter? Perhaps some would think so, but I actually think I let him treat me so badly that to be able to tell him to go shove it would give me a sense of self back. I hate the fact that he did this to me (yes H&D I agree totally with your earlier post on here), I am depressed that I am alone. I'm very grateful for what I do have and for the future that looks brighter now I have the postgrad, yet I am so sorrowful for my lonliness *sigh*
schmoop Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 Well it was nice to read your post. My husband and I have been together almost 18 years. However the last 3 years have been a total lie. I am truly struggleing and am so upset i don't know what to do. It has only been a few days so i guess i have a long way to go. iwas completely blindsided about 8 months ago. I had just gone thru the loss of my twin and in the last 5 years we relocated for his job and i lost both parents. the fact that he did this 5 min. after my twin dies is the part that kills me. it was lamost like a light switch he tuned off after 15 great years and a beautiful daughter. we went to 8 mths of counseling and i found out that he lied and cheated the entire time. in between all of this i was in the hospital for over a mth trying to get over 2 operations he acted like the dutiful husband and stepped out on me 2 times while i was fighting for my life. of course the min. i get better he leaves after i catch him yet again. agghhhh and the women he wants to be with has so much baggage it is unreal. not to mention she has to be the ugliest woman on the planet! so iguess i am in disbelief and will take any adive i can get to move on.
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