LostinFrance Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 hey everyone.. first post here and based on the posts ive seen, im hoping ill receive quality advice from you guys, because i need it! im in france right now for summer holidays (i visit every year for a month or so). I plan to move here sometime in the future for work. I met the girl of my dreams here... and that changed everything. (the reason im not jumping into my question yet is because i need to explain the gravity of the situation). here's the fun part: - im convinced there's no other girl out there for me - she's french and i poorly speak the language. (she speaks very little english) - im leaving france in exactly one week me and this girl barely spoke. she works in a boutique at the mall. we exchanged smiles once during coffee. I walked in, she noticed who i was, and i approached her for shoe sizes. it was funny and awkward, but we enjoyed it. ofcourse i went home and prepared this whole speech and imagined a scenario where i would walk back in the boutique, charm her and tell her she's gorgeous, ask for her name and then leave with a casual "au revior". Then later that day send a rose over via delivery with a note "will you go out with me" but here's what really happened: i walked in.. she noticed me. i went up to her and said "hi/hows it going.. i dont speak very good french, asked her if she speaks english, she did awkwardly.. we had a nice laugh. i told her "your voice is lovely... i just passed by to say hi" she said i was sweet and thanks, and said "a bientot" which means "see you soon". I couldnt do anything more because the other 2 staff were looking at me, and one specific guy (im pretty sure is gay) was VERY close to our conversation, which made it all difficult to compliment her (french people often say direct stuff like "youre beautiful", but i couldnt do that) I hung out for a short time at the coffee shop, she came down with the guy (dammit), and they sat down at another end. I wanted to repair the situation, but i caved in and thought that i shouldnt do a follow up conversation so soon. I smiled casually and left. My target is to make a crazy/amazing/romantic impression.. one that will make her simply remember me when im back on my next trip (which is most likely in a year from now). I plan to visit her again to properly introduce ourselves, clearly express interest and tell her how amazing she is, because i feel there is something cosmic about us (dont want to be a casual flirt)... maybe squeeze a date? but im not prepared (french wise) at all. how do i - meet her in a way that surprises her.. and doesnt freak her out - have a chance to pry her away from the other guy and talk to her - give her that impression? i need to act fast!!! thanks guys
jason83 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Maybe I'm not completely understanding but it really doesn't sound like you know this girl at all....which makes me worry you're jumping to a lot of conclusions. My GF lived in France for a bit to study and she has always talked about how different people view relationships over there. And if you can't even speak to her very well, how will you continue communication when you leave France? It will be even more difficult.
guy.lepage Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Just don't do anything and forget about all of this.
that girl Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 I've known people who met someone, knew they were the one, and managed to do the long distance thing after a short amount of time in person. But I don't think your case is like that. Quite simply, you do not know this girl at all, you can't even communicate clearly. You're in love with the idea of her. At the very most, see if she is on Facebook and friend her. Then in a year see if either of you have improved your language skills. But don't get hung up on her and don't make any big moves, you don't know her.
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