Chitowngirl Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 Just curious, how often do you meet someone who you have really great chemistry with? Does it happen only 1 out of 100 people you meet, a few times a lifetime, or more often?
Citizen Erased Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 I must say, I've never had it on the same level as I do with my current boyfriend. Even when we were both with other people and there wasn't anything romantic there, he always was really fun. We "got" each other. And then he expressed a certain kind of interest in me, something he wasn't getting elsewhere, and it progressed from there. From that point it's been so natural and a lot of it has to do with the chemistry between us. I have chemistry with people, I've had it with exes and friends, but never tothat degree. It's what keeps you tied to people, directs how you respond to each other.
aerogurl87 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I've only met one person I had an out of this world, mind altering, euphoria pumping connection with. I felt like a drug addict when I was with him because when I was with him I felt like I was on this natural high, and when we broke up I felt like someone had sucked the life out of me and my soul felt like it was in pure agony.
Hot Carl Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I'm feeling it right now. There's just something about this thread.
skydiveaddict Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Just curious, how often do you meet someone who you have really great chemistry with? Does it happen only 1 out of 100 people you meet, a few times a lifetime, or more often? I think only a few times in your life
Sanman Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I guess it depends on the type of person you are. In my 26 years, I have had great chemistry with exactly two women. That is out of maybe 75-100 that I have met/dated in my lifetime. I have have good decent/chemistry with others though. My most recent ex was the best chemistry I ever had. Unfortunately, our compatibility isn't very good and I have significant doubts we would ever be compatible. At least I have her as a friend.
Diezel Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I'd bet that's it happened MORE than people actually think. I've just seen so many people focused on a SPECIFIC set of "partner requirements" that they didn't even think to appreciate what was in front of them. Hollywood and Texting (two seperate entities) has doomed this new generation to the impossible gold standard in dating.
pandagirl Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Chemistry goes beyond sexual attraction or romantic excitement -- it's the way you interact with each other, your dynamics and "getting" each other. But chemistry and compatibility are two different things, and you need both to have a lasting relationship.
aerogurl87 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Chemistry goes beyond sexual attraction or romantic excitement -- it's the way you interact with each other, your dynamics and "getting" each other. But chemistry and compatibility are two different things, and you need both to have a lasting relationship. This is sooo true. I have good chemistry with my boyfriend but we are extremely compatible. We can laugh together as easily as we can talk about something serious, share our secret desires with one another and not even think twice about it, while having very similar goals and values in life. Now with my ex whom I talked about earlier, whom I had the hollywood romantic film type of chemistry with, our compatibility was almost non existent. Our goals and values in life were very incompatible and it became more and more obvious as time wore on.
SadandConfusedWA Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I have experinced extremly strong physical chemistry 4 times in my life so far (I am 31). By strong I mean that when I am near that person I feel completly high, it clouds my reason and glosses over other incompatibilities. Even though I could converse with these 4 people, I wouldn't say I got on extremly well with them or that conversation was even that natural or easy. Yet, I was drawn to them to the point of obsession. In the past 2 years, I have developed a friendship with a guy who is taken (NOT my boss - he belongs in the first category). I have experienced a completly different kind of chemistry, as in we get along extremly well, conversation is always fun and easy and I really enjoy talking to him. We have exactly the same sense of humor and nothing ever feels forced. I have not had that kind of chemistry before with pretty much anyone. I find him cute and am somewhat attracted to him on a physical level, but not to the point I was with guys I wrote about above. I am not obsessing over him, but if he were to become single and express romantic interest in me, I know that I would devolop strong feelings for him and quickly. Thanks goodness that I have managed to keep myself in control with him and can truly enjoy the friendship without strong emotions getting in the way while he is taken.
fishtaco Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Not very often. What's worse is someone you feel chemistry with but is not compatible with. That sucks really bad.
SadandConfusedWA Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Not very often. What's worse is someone you feel chemistry with but is not compatible with. That sucks really bad. Yep, that's a nightmare. I sometimes can not understand where my "irrational obsessive attraction" to some men comes from. They are usually only average to sligthly above average looking too, and have personalitiy traits that I objectively dislike (although these traits were not obvious right away, I was unable to stop my "in love" feelings even after I was well aware of them).
gamma1 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 In my late 30s I've never never had great chemistry, let alone good chemistry. I keep getting turned down because of lack of chemistry.
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