SteveC80 Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 Ive noticed on here and in my experience women like it, what is it that you like about it? Is it being the helpless female? Is it being domianted in the bedroom and that translates to other parts of the relationship for you? Did u come from a broken home and your searching for daddy?
pandagirl Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 Ive noticed on here and in my experience women like it, what is it that you like about it? Is it being the helpless female? Is it being domianted in the bedroom and that translates to other parts of the relationship for you? Did u come from a broken home and your searching for daddy? Um, I can say that I definitely do NOT want to be dominated in a relationship. I want to be with someone who has a mind of their own, but I have no interest in being with someone who sees me as their submissive. I hate being told what to do.
Author SteveC80 Posted July 1, 2010 Author Posted July 1, 2010 Its a turn-on! so its a bedroom thing that u transfer to everything else?
Green Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 Women enjoy being dominated its obviouse, but don't really expect an honest answer on hear. You'd be better off just asking your gf/wife why she likes being dominated... but then again she probably doesn't really know why.
Citizen Erased Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 In the bedroom, yes. Outside of it, hell no. I want a partner, not someone that dictates everything. I can compromise but no way can I be told what to do constantly.
Green Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 In the bedroom, yes. Outside of it, hell no. I want a partner, not someone that dictates everything. I can compromise but no way can I be told what to do constantly. I think a man should LEAD his woman. Its a different kind of domination in the bedroom. Outside of it you use mental domination to give your lady a calm peace of mind. Let her know sht is taken care of.
txsilkysmoothe Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 so its a bedroom thing that u transfer to everything else? It's only a bedroom thing, giving up power and control of pleasure to another. It doesn't transfer to everything else and doesn't need to - everything else is a partnership. A man who has power in the bedroom should be a happy camper.
Citizen Erased Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 I think a man should LEAD his woman. Its a different kind of domination in the bedroom. Outside of it you use mental domination to give your lady a calm peace of mind. Let her know sht is taken care of. The only people mental domination works on are those with not enough brain cells to think for themselves. I should know, I was with someone like that for 5 years. It is tiring and boring to make all the decisions, BTDT, and it must be the same to be dictated to constantly. Believe it or not, some females are capable of thinking for themselves.
sweetjasmine Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 "Ladies why do you like being submissive and dominated in a relationship?" I don't.
Green Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 The only people mental domination works on are those with not enough brain cells to think for themselves. I should know, I was with someone like that for 5 years. It is tiring and boring to make all the decisions, BTDT, and it must be the same to be dictated to constantly. Believe it or not, some females are capable of thinking for themselves. Look a king needs his queen but there is still an order. I'm not trying to paint a picture where its like "Yes you may begin eating your breakfast now" but more like the man is THE MAN.
sally4sara Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 Men who think women want to be subjugated do so as justification for their inability to connect with their origin. The frustration over it leaves them feeling rejected. "I couldn't climb back up in mommy so I'm going to be a brat to every replacement I seek. Wahhhh." They know it isn't cool; they wouldn't like being treated that way by someone else. So they pretend its the natural order of things to act like a brat despite how obvious of a self serving view it is.
Nuprin Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 Women like being dominated? Yes please.... in the bedroom. Just throw me around and go all Conan on me. And if you demand to take me to that fancy french restaurant to wine and dine me, I would just swoon as well (it's because I'm a foodie). On other aspects? You want your man cave in the family room? um. no. You want fast food for dinner all the time? um. no. You want to wear that god awful pleated khakis that make you look like you have woman hips? um. no. You want to leave the toilet seat up and splash it all around? um. hells no. You see the distinction? We want dominance on certain aspects but not others.
Woggle Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 I don't know if dominated is the right word but women need a man she can respect and depend on in order to be attracted. Even the independent need to know that they can depend on their man if need be.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 I don't know if dominated is the right word but women need a man she can respect and depend on in order to be attracted. Even the independent need to know that they can depend on their man if need be. Of course. My last bf ALWAYS drove the car. He just liked to be in the driver's seat, in most ways. And he was GOOD at it. After the string of wimps I dated to get to him, this was a huge relief. Finally, I could relax and enjoy.
Woggle Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 Of course. My last bf ALWAYS drove the car. He just liked to be in the driver's seat, in most ways. And he was GOOD at it. After the string of wimps I dated to get to him, this was a huge relief. Finally, I could relax and enjoy. If more women were willing to inspire these qualities in men then we would be willing to display but ballbusting misandrists just do not bring out that gentlemen instinct in a man. I am sorry but it is true. As much as I talk about not doing these things I never mind doing them for my wife because I know she appreciates it and is willing to give back.
dreamingoftigers Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 I don't like being dominated per se, but I do like a man who doesn't rely on me to raise him like his mother and make his decisions for him. I like a man who can stand up for what he thinks and feels, who also takes his role as being my man seriously and uses it to support and protect me, as I use what I have to be honest and kind to him. I do like the idea of bedroom aggressive behaviour because there is something to knowing that you drive your partner wild (sadly my relationship does not reflect this and I have a man who is constantly looking for his mother and expecting his mother, very frustrating. I am constantly having to point out, "No, I am not going to freak out over things, whatever it is, just tell it to me straight, I am not going to scream and yell or sob and guilt trip like your mother does.") It gets very old and hard to respect someone who is so childlike at times. Dominance can equal confidence but not if it crosses any sensible lines.
Author SteveC80 Posted July 1, 2010 Author Posted July 1, 2010 Of course. My last bf ALWAYS drove the car. He just liked to be in the driver's seat, in most ways. And he was GOOD at it. After the string of wimps I dated to get to him, this was a huge relief. Finally, I could relax and enjoy. can you be more specific what did he do? Just make all the decisions in the relationship?
aerogurl87 Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 Haha I find this thread to be funny because in my relationship I'm actually the dominant one, including when it comes to the bedroom. Well most of the time anyway, there are times when I don't want to be in charge and I let him take over, but for the most part I'm the one who calls the shots.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 can you be more specific what did he do? Just make all the decisions in the relationship? No, but he loved doing the day-to-day "leg work" -- driving, being assertive at coffee shops and restaurants, always coming up with great ideas for things to do. He had this great sense for flow, and would steer us into very enjoyable directions all the time. Some of my friends said he was like a maestro -- he just knew how to orchestrate and make good things happen. And the way he conducted in bed was a whole 'nother level of awesome.
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