how to make a move

[s_manner]

so i realize this is probably embarassing to admit that i'm 19 and never kissed a girl, but i'm hoping to change that tomorrow night. i like to think i'm outgoing, decent looking guy but for some reason i've never been in a situation to hook up with a girl. i've just never met any girls that i could see having a relationship with. maybe i'm afaid of commiting. idk. one of my buddys girlfriends has brought one of her friends to a few parties i've been at, and we've talked a little. i always get nervous when it comes to asking for her number. she's attractive and somewhat intimidating to me. the other night a bunch of us went swimming and me and kayla (the girl) went off and talked. i feel like she could be interested in me but idk. tomorrow i asked her over to just hang out and watch a movie, and i'm hoping t finally get a kiss. can anyone preferably girls..tell me how guys have made moves on them that they didnt feel were creepy or forced or too aggressive? i dont want to scare her away or come off awkward

[s_manner]

not when you never have it isn't. thanks.

[Feelin Frisky]

I of course am not a girl. But a thing that just seems natural to me is at the right time where it can't be miscontrued as a high five or anything, look into her eyes and put your open hand, palm-first, to her. I almost always get exactly the same positive reciprocation, she puts her palm and fingers against mine. If she doesn't, she's either telling you no or may not get the cue and ask you why you did that. In that case you just say you wanted to see if she was open to any further closeness without just sticking your mug out like in the movies where it can be really awkward and unsettling if she rejects you--even painfull and with sting finger shaped red pots on your jaw. I think that extension of the hand without any words and just eye contact is the bearest bones step toward moving slowly toward closeness. The timing and mood must be right--especially if she's one to make jokes and shows no openness to the cue for "first physical contact".

 

This does not mean you're asking her to jump into bed right then and there. It's like the touch people used to do in slow dancing before the Twist made dancing a solitary display of god knows what.

 

The next good thing that should happen if she is digging your cue is she'll probably let her fingers slide between yours and hers--then guess what? You're holding hands. If she does that, move a little closer. You can then simply but sincerely ask "may I kiss you?" Or, if you happen to be in a place where peple actually do slow dance, take her for a twirl. I find that the asking is gentlmanly and considerate. Some may think I'm all wrong and have different more carnal peronal choices and techniques but mine is slow, considerate and respectful while also expediting what I want to happen without it seeming like anyone is asserting dominance or fulfilling selfish expectations. I've aslo dated and held hands and said good night with a girl, and the first time I'd be alone with her the next time we met she'd tell me not to get her too excited and then she proceeded to shove her tongue down my throat. It's all good, ya just gotta make sure they have some power and some outs if they want it (if you're interested in more than mugging it up with some bar slut).

Edited July 1, 2010 by Feelin Frisky

[crimsonmike]

It may fail me the very next time I try it, but my key is her hair. When you are close at some point try playing with her hair. If a woman will let you play with her hair, in my experience 100% of the time, she will let you kiss her.