robdrm32 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Need an outside opinion here. i'll be as brief as possible. Last summer i got with Jane, we worked together with Alice. At first things with Jane were great never fought always together etc. So one day I get a text asking if i'd be mad if we didn't hang out, ended up visiting her at work and Jane said she wanted to come over and bring her HW. So got a text she had to run home quick after work and i ended up waiting, waiting called her a few times, no answer, went to mailbox after like 2 rings once. Got a text from Jane saying she was home and mom was yelling at her blah blah. So i called her house mom said no shes not home. texted her telling her i called her house, and i know you weren't home. Much later she texts back saying she was home but her girlfriend showed up at her house crying, and she was outside her house in her car the whole night with girlfriend. So the next few days she avoided me, wouldn't talk much and her story seemed shaky. So the next month i rarely saw her, sex stopped, all the lovey dovey stopped, got ditched alot etc. So i broke up with her, she didnt seem to care, then a week and a half later i find out through facebook that she was together with some other guy. So we stopped talking, then she comes back like 7 months later wanting to get back together so we talk about what happened and she tells me i remember it wrong, it was atleast 3 weeks before they were together, but as i go through it her story doesn't add up. And it broke my heart at the time so i dont see how i'd remember it wrong. So we stay together a little longer, i'm all sketched out ask to see her phone, see her ex's number in there and some guy been calling her she says is her cousin, starts crying "You Don't" trust me blah blah, after 2 hours of doing detective work she admits she was lying. We were still hanging out but not together, she got pissed at me and has been ignoring me about a week now. Alice and Jane are good friends and me and Alice are good but not as close. So i was talking with alice about relationships in general and i brought up how i knew Jane cheated, and she said she wanted to change the subject b/c "we have different ideas about that" Now Alice doesn't know everything that happened and Jane told her she didn't cheat, but i'm wondering am I crazy for thinking Jane cheated? i mean things add up to me. What do you think?
lostsunsets Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 She cheated. Dump her. Plenty of women out there that won't cheat.
Author robdrm32 Posted July 1, 2010 Author Posted July 1, 2010 She cheated. Dump her. Plenty of women out there that won't cheat. Haha well i knew that really. I'm more worried about her friend Alice, they are still friends but I like Alice, and have for a while and shes been pretty friendly lately. So yea i'd go for Alice but kinda worried she might have loyalties to jane, and doesn't really know what kind of person jane is. So i'd look like an ass, maybe.
mansquito Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 In the early stages of the dance, trash talking exes (even cheating exes) can make you sound like you're still hung up on the ex. Try to get with Alice, but STFU about Jane.
stace79 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I'd be more worried that Alice wouldn't date you b/c she's more loyal to Jane. Depending on the level of friendship, of course. I wouldn't date any of my friends' exes. Either way, you've got to let go of Jane and the cheating. Nobody you might date wants to listen to you bad-mouth another ex.
Author robdrm32 Posted July 2, 2010 Author Posted July 2, 2010 yeah whenever we do talk its rarely ever about jane, and when jane does get brought up its because alice brings her up. but its rare either way. I'm thinking my only shot is to let their friendship run its course because jane goes through friends like nobody i've seen. i think alice isnt going to date me atm because of jane anyways so i can only wait and see, i'm just frustrated because i'm getting mixed signals, alice asks me to visit her at work and wont let me leave, but when i mention her going to my soccer games she's kind of timid about it. meh maybe i'm over thinking it.
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