BeautifulTragedy Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Hello everyone, I'm 19 close to going on 20. I'm obviously new to this site, but I've been going about with posting already. Well to get straight to the point, I know how most of you will go ahead and say I am too young and to enjoy the single life while I can. Though I can just tell you before you begin with that. I never really cared about relationships, never was interested in guys until I reached high school. Of all the friends I've had, I was the only one that never been in a relationship before. I never had that special someone to tell me how much I meant to them, never experienced being held or being kissed. Through those years I just felt lonely. I mean I never even hung out with most of those friends because they had their "boyfriends" to hang with. Some even brought their boyfriends along, which was a bad idea for someone like me. I mean sure, I love being free and having some alone time for myself. I like not being limited, but sometimes having too much time to myself isn't really all that great. I'm always fine until I start seeing others in a park, mall, theaters holding hands, kissing, hugging, laughing with each other when I myself haven't experienced it. I mean no guy has ever seen me as more than just a friend. There has only been a few times I got called beautiful or I have a great personality. Though even from them saying that, I don't see why none of them ever wanted to date me. Just with me not ever experiencing this, I always thought something was wrong with me, and then there are times where I know it's something wrong with them if they can't see how great I am you know? Well sorry to type out so much, just want to know is it really worth staying single for so many years? For others they say it's worth it, but I don't know. I get tired of being on my own all the time and just want a change.
Serenitynow Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 The number one piece of advice, don't listen to anyone when they try to pressure you to find a date. Just let things flow and see what happens. Usually when you hunt for a date, thats when you end up dealing with the bottom feeders. I'm 39 have had 2 great long term relationships, 1 good marriage, and right now I feel the same way as you. Sometimes I wish I had someone to share life with and sometimes I dont. I was on a dating site last year and that was just a big mess, I would not recommend them, especially at your age.
Author BeautifulTragedy Posted June 30, 2010 Author Posted June 30, 2010 The number one piece of advice, don't listen to anyone when they try to pressure you to find a date. Just let things flow and see what happens. Usually when you hunt for a date, thats when you end up dealing with the bottom feeders. I'm 39 have had 2 great long term relationships, 1 good marriage, and right now I feel the same way as you. Sometimes I wish I had someone to share life with and sometimes I dont. I was on a dating site last year and that was just a big mess, I would not recommend them, especially at your age. I don't listen to people that pressures me into that. It was just always me seeing others in relationships, but no one ever questioned why I wasn't in one but myself. Yeah I have hunted for some in the past, but now I'm just here with waiting again. I feel decent about it at times, then I lose myself when I see others around me in good relationships since I never experienced it. Well I do know dating sites would be a mess. Just knowing that a guy doesn't like me in person, and never has depresses me and puts a huge dent in my self-esteem at times.
melodymatters Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Oh honey ! You're 19, and pretty by the looks of your avatar ! I'm sure you don't need to make a lifelong decision about being alone or coupled for life right now ! If no one is asking you out, you either are hanging with the wrong people or sending the wrong signals. Remember, dating is just one day at a time, then if you click, all the other good stuff will come, if not.....you're young...NEXT !
Author BeautifulTragedy Posted June 30, 2010 Author Posted June 30, 2010 Thank you. Yeah I know that I don't need to make the decision, but there are times it would be nice to have a change for once, lol. Well strange thing is I am shy, but when I do get myself out there to ask someone out I get turned down. I'm not one to stand by and not say a word to someone I like. But I guess I do hang with the wrong kind of people, but then again it's hard for me to even make friends these days.
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