That special place in your heart that you have for the guy that took your innocence a

[ashleigh422]

o, I was 16. He was my close friend of about a year. I became friends with his g/f so that I could be around him more. It worked. I was around a lot. One night after a night of lots of drinking (I can’t believe I was so young and stupid.. lol) his girlfriend passed out and his friend he brought passed out, both too drunk. That is when it happened. I told my best girlfriend I had at the time (biattch) and of course word got out. He and I never spoke again. I have always had a thing for him. He friended me on FB a few months ago and we both had our airing of feelings and apologies and remained friends (he was involved). The other day I saw that him and his gf had split up so I send him a message on fb checking to make sure he was okay and let him know I am and always have been here for him if he needs anything. He has been through a lot in the 8 years since we last spoke. He told me he would love to give us a fair chance since we never had one and to call him… NO.. I message him and tell him to call me. He did that day. We talked for hours about our lives, etc.

So the next day we meet up. We go to a park. He holds my hand for the first time. We hit it off. We spent a long time together just talking. Before I leave, he kisses me. Sweet and innocent with underlying feelings and history involved and well felt. We continue to talk/text the night after I left and the next morning. Then nothing. He texts me and says he wants to see me but then ignores me when I call or text him or sends a quick text back.

 

I don’t think I laid out my cards too soon and seemed too interested in him. I would say so under any other circumstances, except that it was him and we have history. In fact, when we were together, he told me that he had waited along time for this too and doesn’t want to talk to anyone but me and I played it off and said it would come with time.

 

I’m really getting nervous.. what do you think I did wrong? Do you think he felt rejected by my saying that? I don’t want to chase him because all rules on dating say don’t chase men. But I don’t want to let him slip through again..

 

Please help, what can I do?

[sally4sara]

I do not have this special place you speak of. It seems to me that believing you will always have a special place for your first is the only reason why someone would have that special place in their heart after the relationship is over.

 

And dear, contact him if you want. The dating police won't come for you for being female and pursuing.

[2sure]

You didnt DO anything wrong. The guy is a cheater. He hooked up with you when he had a gf. He contacted you again while he had a GF. He is a shopper. He likes something until he has it then he likes something else. Maybe he will grow of it. But he hasnt yet.

 

You did nothing wrong. Your special moment is still yours to keep. It was with a guy you had a crush on, beats many other peoopkes firsts I can tell you that. Dont regret it. But it was a moment. Not an on going series of moments.

 

If he does contact you again, tell him up front you dont like the in and out contact thing and that if he wants to call you for a date you will consider it when it happens.

 

And if he doesnt call, hey you had your moment and now its "been there done that."

[callalilly]

The most logical explanation is that he's back with his girlfriend again (despite FB status). He knows how to contact you, and probably will if he becomes truly single again.

[Green]

You already know whats up, so why ask us. I'm sorry things don't seem to be working out but you're not 16 anymore and should see that this guy is TROUBLE.