KafkasLastWords Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 So I was doing really well, or so I thought. As of Thursday I have been sick to my stomach again. I had established NC and distance with my ex and distance with the people we knew in common so I wouldn't have to hear about him... ever! Well last week he decided to invite one of my closest friends to his birthday party. My friend invited him to some soccer party and basically now they've been hanging out. I know guys are different than girls but if someone gutted ANY of my friends, I'd shut them out and want to kill them. I am protective of people I love. I feel betrayed by my friend but also, knowing that they are in touch and hearing about what he's up to makes me sick. I can't eat or relax and it's just getting worse. I feel crazy and like I've regressed in a major way
Soul-Mate'less Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 distance yourself from your friend.. and/or tell him not to mention your ex under any circumstances..
Author KafkasLastWords Posted June 30, 2010 Author Posted June 30, 2010 i have but i am just so angry. i am the type of person that really looks out for her friends and this just feels like such a betrayal to me.
spyyder Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 You need to tell him to back off your friends and that your prepared to just let go of his friends and some other mutual friends in return. It's kinda breaking NC BUT you really need to tell him this. Also I think your close friend would be betraying you if he/she went to your ex's birthday party knowing that your two broke up. Don't be surprised if your friends chose your ex, as your friendship with them was built with him so it can really only go either way and has to go one way. If things get ugly then you'll end up fighting over friends, and lets be honest people (including friends) these days only want whats best for them, or in their best interest so you might be a better person but your boyfriend might be more fun, give more advantages etc so they will pick him. Also try to be positive, happy, fun, etc. If not then your friends will think...hmm should I be friends with someone really upset and furious [you] or someone cool and fun [your ex]?
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