chooch Posted June 30, 2010 Share Posted June 30, 2010 hey guys. Basically I failed no contact again... but have maintained it for 48 hours solid since then and I don't feel tempted to break it half as much anymore. I've realized that I was at fault in the relationship because I WAS too controlling. Anyway, that's by the by. She wants us to stay friends in the long run but knows I can't do it in the immediate future because I'm still in love with her. fair enough... I've got over the initial denial phase wherein I kept breaking no contact and am giving her the space she deserves. However, she text me today saying: "Sorry if I wake you [we're on english time so it was 8:00 am] but I'm on my way to work. Thought you'd want to know I passed my first year of uni with a first. How are you? How is your dissertation going?" Now I did ask her to tell me how she got on so fair on her for that; likewise she wants to know how I get on when my masters finishes in August. The dilemma I have now is do I text back and if so how do I play it? It woudn't be breaking no contact because she text me first. I obviously want to congratulate her but don't want to end up slipping back into... so fancy meeting for a coffee style escapades of the last week! Should I just keep it brief along the lines of "knew you'd do well [i have said this before]. I'm good thanks, works going well" Is that too blunt and distant or is that acceptable? Sorry, I just don't want to give her the wrong impression e.g. wanting her back. I do want her back but I need to move on first! Thanks for the help Link to post Share on other sites
Author chooch Posted June 30, 2010 Author Share Posted June 30, 2010 No. WRONG. fair enough. haven't done it so I won't. Might look rude cos I do want her back but I guess I gotta stay serious about no contact Link to post Share on other sites
Heatemyheart89 Posted June 30, 2010 Share Posted June 30, 2010 You've split up.who cares about her first?seriously.listen to the voice of experience keep no contact.if I had I would have I would have been over my ex in say a month or two.but because I continued contact he initiated about my exam results it dragged out for a year.misery. Link to post Share on other sites
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