chooch Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 hey guys. Basically I failed no contact again... but have maintained it for 48 hours solid since then and I don't feel tempted to break it half as much anymore. I've realized that I was at fault in the relationship because I WAS too controlling. Anyway, that's by the by. She wants us to stay friends in the long run but knows I can't do it in the immediate future because I'm still in love with her. fair enough... I've got over the initial denial phase wherein I kept breaking no contact and am giving her the space she deserves. However, she text me today saying: "Sorry if I wake you [we're on english time so it was 8:00 am] but I'm on my way to work. Thought you'd want to know I passed my first year of uni with a first. How are you? How is your dissertation going?" Now I did ask her to tell me how she got on so fair on her for that; likewise she wants to know how I get on when my masters finishes in August. The dilemma I have now is do I text back and if so how do I play it? It woudn't be breaking no contact because she text me first. I obviously want to congratulate her but don't want to end up slipping back into... so fancy meeting for a coffee style escapades of the last week! Should I just keep it brief along the lines of "knew you'd do well [i have said this before]. I'm good thanks, works going well" Is that too blunt and distant or is that acceptable? Sorry, I just don't want to give her the wrong impression e.g. wanting her back. I do want her back but I need to move on first! Thanks for the help
Author chooch Posted June 30, 2010 Author Posted June 30, 2010 No. WRONG. fair enough. haven't done it so I won't. Might look rude cos I do want her back but I guess I gotta stay serious about no contact
Heatemyheart89 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 You've split up.who cares about her first?seriously.listen to the voice of experience keep no contact.if I had I would have I would have been over my ex in say a month or two.but because I continued contact he initiated about my exam results it dragged out for a year.misery.
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