guy.lepage Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Most people think a guy should make a man of himself and call rather than text or email. In my experience, if the girl is interested, it makes no difference whatsoever. If she's interested, she'll answer to my text message quickly with no second thoughts as to how "strong" my approach was. Those with second thoughts probably were not that interested for starters. What has been your experience with this (both from giving and receiving end)?
xRJ85x Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Most people think a guy should make a man of himself and call rather than text or email. In my experience, if the girl is interested, it makes no difference whatsoever. If she's interested, she'll answer to my text message quickly with no second thoughts as to how "strong" my approach was. Those with second thoughts probably were not that interested for starters. What has been your experience with this (both from giving and receiving end)? Depends on the situation. The main rule is ALWAYS call to plan a date, never text. However, use text as a cushion in certain circumstances. For example, when just using small talk, saying hi, texting something randomly funny just as an attraction builder. And use it if you don't think a girl will be comfortable picking up the phone when you call. For example, I met this girl at a bar Saturday night. She was clearly tipsy, so I didn't know if she would remember me or not. I texted her the next day saying who I was and if she got home OK. She responded excitedly. The idea is that had I called her without her knowing the number, she most likely wouldn't have picked up. So instead, I get some light small talk going to make her more comfortable and told her I'd call her sometime before calling a couple days later to ask her on a date.
gamma1 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Depends on the situation. The main rule is ALWAYS call to plan a date, never text. Women rarely pick up the phone when you call them. I've always called, but I wonder if I should text next time.
USMCHokie Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Texting is lame...but there are often times when it's more convenient or practical to text. Asking someone out on a date is never one of those times... Also, some girls prefer text over calling...but you'll learn that as you get to know them better...
xRJ85x Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Women rarely pick up the phone when you call them. I've always called, but I wonder if I should text next time. What circumstances are you calling the girl under? How/when did you meet her? How many days later are you calling?
xRJ85x Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Texting is lame...but there are often times when it's more convenient or practical to text. Asking someone out on a date is never one of those times... Also, some girls prefer text over calling...but you'll learn that as you get to know them better... I think it depends on age too. This girl I met at the bar is 3 years younger than me. I think the younger the girl is, the more open to texting she is.
alphamale Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 In my experience, if the girl is interested, it makes no difference whatsoever. If she's interested, she'll answer to my text message quickly with no second thoughts as to how "strong" my approach was. indeed .
Blade Runner Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Women rarely pick up the phone when you call them.[/Quote] a) She's working b) She's busy c) She doesn't like you that much d) Doesn't like you at all If she likes you, and is available, why wouldn't she pick up? If you're calling women and they're not calling back or picking up, then maybe they're not into you.
gamma1 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Women rarely pick up the phone when you call them. I've always called, but I wonder if I should text next time. We email online a few times and either I ask for her number which she gives or she gives me the number and tells me to call her. a) She's working b) She's busy c) She doesn't like you that much d) Doesn't like you at all If she likes you, and is available, why wouldn't she pick up? If you're calling women and they're not calling back or picking up, then maybe they're not into you. it could be any of those. I don't understand why she'd give a number and say she can't wait to hear from me, but them never answer or return my message. None of this makes any sense to me. I'm willing to be lame and text.
Author guy.lepage Posted June 30, 2010 Author Posted June 30, 2010 Seriously, you meet someone you really like and you give them your phone number. At this point, you don't know whether that person is going to call or not but you are truly hoping they do give you a sign. The next day you receive a text message from this person. Unless you changed your mind (which happens to the best of us), why the hell would you not respond to the text message? Remember, you were hoping this person would get in touch with you...
Blade Runner Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 it could be any of those. I don't understand why she'd give a number and say she can't wait to hear from me, but them never answer or return my message. None of this makes any sense to me.[/Quote]Two things. Firstly, if she doesn't return/answer your calls, why would she return your texts? Texting opens the possibility of dragging things on. Like "I'm busy at the moment but we should get together sometime" - this could be legit, but it also could be "I'm just gonna string you along". In a club, or a bar setting, it's very easy to say things you might not really mean. Truth is, five minutes after saying that, a more interesting guy might have come around. But who really knows. If she's interested, she'll answer to my text message quickly with no second thoughts as to how "strong" my approach was.[/Quote] I agree with this also. Either way, gamma1, the whole thing can be confusing as you have no doubt realized.
cgracek Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 its definitely more attractive when a guy isnt afraid to call me instead of texting me all the time. as long as its balanced tho it doesn't matter.
aerogurl87 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 I'll quote Patti Stanger (aka the Millionaire Matchmaker) for this one: "Calling makes the man, texting makes the boy, email makes the phantom."
gamma1 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 its definitely more attractive when a guy isnt afraid to call me instead of texting me all the time. as long as its balanced tho it doesn't matter. I'll quote Patti Stanger (aka the Millionaire Matchmaker) for this one: "Calling makes the man, texting makes the boy, email makes the phantom." Explain why women hardly answer the phone after giving me their number online and telling me they can't wait until I call them.
aerogurl87 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Explain why women hardly answer the phone after giving me their number online and telling me they can't wait until I call them. Some women are bit<hes by nature and get a kick out of seeing guys pursue them. Or maybe they're busy, not every woman waits by her phone, hoping and praying some guy will call. Or they could be playing by one of those relationship rule books.
PhillyDude Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Some women are bit<hes by nature and get a kick out of seeing guys pursue them. Or maybe they're busy, not every woman waits by her phone, hoping and praying some guy will call. Or they could be playing by one of those relationship rule books. Please stop with that BUSY CRAP
aerogurl87 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Please stop with that BUSY CRAP It's not always crap as you say, sometimes it's true. When I'm just dating a guy and we're not serious I don't always answer their calls when they call and come running to them. Hell, my ex complained to me that I never came running to pick up my phone unless I really wanted to talk to him before we started dating. Why didn't I do that? Because I was actually busy and unless I'm with someone seriously or seriously considering becoming exclusive with them soon, they are not my everything and my world does not revolve around them.
Serenitynow Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 I never text to go on a date. I always call. If she doesnt answer I leave a voicemail. Now its TOTALLY up to her to call back. PROBLEM SOLVED
Diezel Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 I only text family and friends. The only time I ever text a female interest is when we're in an LTR and I forgot to turn the stove off and she's still at my place. Texting has been the death nail for a LOT of men who sit there going back and forth with women interests.
harmfulsweetz Posted July 1, 2010 Posted July 1, 2010 Amazingly enough, I prefer texting But that could be due to the fact I'm terrible on the phone.
Author guy.lepage Posted July 2, 2010 Author Posted July 2, 2010 Amazingly enough, I prefer texting But that could be due to the fact I'm terrible on the phone. I also prefer texting because it allows the other person to kindly refuse (or not respond at all). Ironically, I've always been successful at getting dates by text or email. The few times I used the phone I wasn't as successful. Goes to show it's all about the connection, not the means of communication (IMHO of course).
USMCHokie Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Amazingly enough, I prefer texting But that could be due to the fact I'm terrible on the phone. I bet you're a sweetheart on the phone... I have no problem texting to begin a conversation, but if we go back and forth a few times within a couple minutes, then I'll call because it's obvious she's available to talk and a 5 minute phone call can accomplish the same thing as 50 texts over an hour...
Diezel Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I also prefer texting because it allows the other person to kindly refuse (or not respond at all). I really hope you aren't male.
Maggotface Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I would prefere for a guy/girl to call me once in a while. Texting is okay too, I'm not one for talking on the phone but I don't like long text conversations either, I don't see a point in it. If you know you're going to be texting a lot why not just call? I don't like for a guy/girl I just met to say "Can I text you later?" That's so impersonal. I'd much rather someone who's interested to call me.
Bogo123 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I hate the phone so I text to set up dates. Its proved successful so far. But once it starts getting serious is when phone convos are needed.
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