listen_to_me_please Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 (edited) Hello All, I just wanted to get different prespectives which is why I am making post. A long time ago, a little over 2 years ago. I found out my ex was having sex with another person. I think she was cheating on me and using me for money, however in her eyes, I think she thought she was working for me and that we were not together, atleast thats how I think she rationalize it even though at the end of the day she knew what she was doing. When it all came to light (her own best friend told me), I threw her out, broke up with her, crussed her out, did everything in my power to get rid of her, but she wouldn't quit, everyday calling me, texting me, calling me, leaving voice messages, crying. It drag out for about a month. I don't know how but we ended up speaking again, she tricked me. After this, she would call and sound sad but as time grew on, she just got cocky and bold, she was trying to emasculate me, and at first I allowed it because I figured something was wrong with her. She went to far though, one night I called her, she hit me with the "I need space line", thats when I made the decision to just end it again, once and for all, for good this time. The next morning she called me like 2 or 3 times, I just ignored it, and later in the night, she called me from a blocked number, I was like "damn", she tricked me again. Anyway, I still went through with it, just sent her a email, telling her good luck and good bye as well as curshing her out, and calling her a whore. A few weeks later, she called my cousin and said I had been emailing, texting, calling and harassing her. That was ODD. I think the relationship was suppose to end LONG before that, but it never happen. I thought I was safe and she wasn't going to leave so I started making plans for the future, I even saved the money and planned out our lives. She would of liked it, but it came to light that she was banging some other dude and me, at the same time. I think she was trying to keep me there just in case and once her relationship was the way she wanted it, she would let me go, I think that was her plan. Eitherway, I started to change and progress, and then she started to act normal again, she had been acting funny for a few months, but she always gave me the pussy so i always thought she was mine. I don't even know why she even stayed. Anyways, it was a bad breakup, really bad. I did some things I should of not done. Nothing to extreme but at the same time, I think I was hurt. I spent the next two yeas in a danze, recovering and wondering when she would come back, rebounding, just biding my time really, she always comes back, but after about a year I started to give up. Its going on a little over 2 years now. I moved to a new city, change my numbers, threw away all reminders, I don't even have one picture or anything. Messed up my business and bascially made allot of classical life mistakes because of a women. So now a little over two years later, I never forgot her. I never contacted her. I just disappeared. I don't even know if she has the same number. But in LIFE from my understanding, when women do these kinds of things, then, thats how the story ends..... I still don't fully understand but I think I do, I think I had a female who wanted more and I didn't give it to her and she didn't blame me outwardly for it, she just let it build up and fester and I was always traveling, she must of just decieded to have some fun, got caught up, fell in love, started to look at me differently, tried to put me in the friend zone, used me for the money and eventually blamed me for everything, all the while I was obvilious to everything going on around me yet I suppose I always knew but I never cared, she would never leave me. I could always get her back. I think that was my mentality at that point in time except when she was around then it would be us instead of me. Out of sight, out of mind, yet I still remember. I can't forget. This is sad but it doesn't really bother me, its more like a life experience, this whole ordeal is odd, I just want to go get her, erase the past and start fresh but it doesn't work like that, I think I have to find another. Edited June 30, 2010 by listen_to_me_please
USMCHokie Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Out of sight, out of mind, yet I still remember. I can't forget. This is sad but it doesn't really bother me, its more like a life experience, this whole ordeal is odd, I just want to go get her, erase the past and start fresh but it doesn't work like that, I think I have to find another. Almost a year later, and I can't seem to forget either...
bananaboat11 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Almost a year later, and I can't seem to forget either... Over a year ago... I had a bad breakup with the one woman I think I'll ever love... and I thought she had moved on. 8 months later... I did what everyone on LS would tell you NOT to do. I broke NC (being the dumper, tho...) I found out she was scared she had lost me forever. We are in love. But we now we can't be together now. Think about that... the two of you.
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