rivermagic Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 On the 10th my boyfriend decided to move out. He moved back in with his mom. He still called and stopped in to see me, and to take my son to the park. After his taking my son to the park, he started not talking to me online, nor picking up my phone calls. Recently, one of my friends had spotted him walking up the road with a girl. She fit the discription of an ex girlfriend. I didn't say anything. I had been trying to call him for a few days and no one would pick up, so I blocked my number,Then one day I turned on his facebook and seen that this girl had sent him a heart on his wall. It made me mad so I basically told him that I heard he was with her, and I wanted him to move his things and get out of my life, and have a good life with her and her kids. He then deleted me off facebook. I called him up to see why and he started screaming at me, telling me I was stupid, and crazy, and he didn't do it. It was the maddest I have ever seen him he sounded more inraged then guilty. He said he did not. And continued to tell me off. His mom was in the background telling him to stop and to calm down, He then hung up on me. I called back and she said he was really upset right then and couldn't talk. I know the other girl knows now, because we had one mutual friend together, and she deleted him, and hid all of her information. Why would he tell her? Why would he keep her on the list and not me? He now has deleted me completely off his msn. He claimed on the phone he would be here in a few days to get his things. Why not get them right then? It is nice stuff to. He even told me to sell it. We are expecting a baby in October, and he completely ignores me now, do you think he will come around? I feel bad to jump to conclusions, but I honestly thought he was cheating. My biggest issue is why she would go through the actions to protect her privacy, and delete her mutual friends. Why would he tell her?
O'Malley Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 You didn't jump to conclusions. Your boyfriend and his ex were obviously laying the groundwork prior to his moving out. Both are now covering their tracks (hence the facebook shenanigans) in an attempt to prevent you from finding out more about their affair. As painful as it may be, his behavior -- lying, cheating, yelling at you -- is a deliberate choice, and will continue to be so as long as you are in a relationship with him. You are expecting a child together, so you need to make sure that your ex is at least financially responsible for his child when it is born. Until that time, don't have any contact with him. After that, it's up to him to decide if he's going to be an actual father or not.
lofi_tokyo Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Well, honestly, because you're coming off as a bit stalkerish and scary. Agreed. Well, sort of. There was no obvious reason to think him and his ex were getting together. You jumped the gun. Maybe he just needed space - and instead of respecting that, or instead of having an honest discussion with him, you lied to him and accused him of something you made up in your head. Why did his ex block you on facebook? I'm guessing he spoke to her saying "are you telling people we're getting back together? what the hell is going on?" to which her reaction was probably "wow your girlfriend is crazy I haven't done anything, I'm blocking her". Blah. I mean, regardless of what went on, what you really need to be asking yourself is: do you need this guy in your life? Is his relationship with you what you want? That's difficult to answer with a child on the way, but it is something to consider nonetheless.
Author rivermagic Posted June 30, 2010 Author Posted June 30, 2010 She put a heart up on his wall...Only his no one elses.
aerogurl87 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 I don't think you were crazy, I think you followed your instincts. When my ex broke up with me his dumbass forgot to take me off facebook, so when I realized he went from being single to in a relationship less than 24 hours apart, I knew something was up. Unfortunately for him I wrote on his wall something to the effect of "I wonder how your new girlfriend feels knowing you told me you loved me yesterday" and she found it, hehe. But seriously just be glad he's gone out of your life. You don't need a partner whose going to go behind your back and do shady stuff like that. There's nothing worse than being with someone you can't trust, believe me I know.
mixwell Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 This is exactly why I deleted facebook.. People need to get the hell of facebook and aquire a face to face connection.. If this guy got you preggo then he should be a man and stop playing games and realize that you are the mother of his future offspring.. There is nothin worse than bringing a life into this world and play these stupid games.... man up and focus on the child is what i say.
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