vitao Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Hey everyone, I've come here because I need some direction. I'll give coles notes as to make this easier on all of us: -met girl through mutual friends, ended up kissing and such under bar conditions that night, find out she is girl version of me -went on a couple of "dates" where I realized she is moving for school to another country, had the talk about what we both want and realized it was not the same thing due to the circumstances -she kept calling and texting to spend time together 1 on 1, but still casual -I kept feeling like she was showing signs of interest still -went on a camping trip with mutual friends, all of my friends agreed that she is sending signals, spent all of camping time together pretty much (she changed sleeping arrangements so that she was sleeping in tent with my friend and I, stayed up till 4 AM with me, stuff like that), even told a mutual friend that she likes me but "we are too similar" -find out that she got accepted to a school in our country, a couple of hours drive from where we live, and is moving there instead Obviously a lot is missing here, but this is as compact I could make it. My question is, I really do like this girl, we get along very well and have all the same things in common. When we had the talk I just changed my mindset and put her in the friend zone, no biggie. But now, everytime I spend time with her and she acts this way, I can't help but become more invested emotionally. I want to have an amazing summer with her, and then deal with bridges ahead as we come to them. I am 95% confident that she likes me, I like her, how can I make this work. Problems: -we already had the talk about this, I am sure she doesn't want to bring it up, and I am not going to either, matter of getting my feelings stepped on in case I'm wrong about her liking me -I believe she is waiting for me to instigate the first move, but I am hesitant because of what has already happened, again I don't want to look like a fool -She is not the kind of girl to play games, but I believe that she is either afraid of commitment or just doesn't know how to go about all of this What do you all think? What should I do? I know the answer is man up and just do something...worst case scenario I am wrong and really have lost nothing...but again I am entirely too much of a wuss to convince myself alone
USMCHokie Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 What do you all think? What should I do? I know the answer is man up and just do something...worst case scenario I am wrong and really have lost nothing...but again I am entirely too much of a wuss to convince myself alone You're right, this is exactly what you should do. Hopefully you are convinced now.
bunnixkisses Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Afraid of commitment? Probably not. But afraid that she will spend time with you and become head over heels in love..only to have to move and get heartbroken? Probably. I would say..let things to the way they are going and the way you feel is right. Have a FUN summer with her..don't worry about college and moving until that bridge comes..if you guys have fun, and start establishing REAL feelings or things start progressing...than do what you feel is right. All else fails, you guys will have a summer fling, she'll move away and never see her again. Otherwise, you guys might have an awesome relationship, and be able to keep it going while she is in college. I wouldn't have "the talk" again for a while, enjoy the summer and the company you guys are giving each other..and whatever it leads to...so be it.
Lipsy10 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 It defo sounds like shes giving you the come-on... you know what you have to do. Ask her out! and do it quick before she gets sick of all the messing around and moves on to someone else. Good luck
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