zerovandez Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 (edited) So I met this girl at a club/bar. She was rather sober at the time and hinted me to come over so I did. We danced and kissed the night away and exchanged numbers. I texted her at the end of the next day. We eventually made plans to go on a date the following Friday. So we meet for a something to eat and she decided to stay for a few drinks and a movie. So we did that. We held hands and kissed as if we were a couple. During the date she said she was wondering if and when I was going to ask her on a second date. I hesitated to comment, and I have no clue why. Just a little background on me, I'm an Asian male, 28, about 5'11 and very respectful to women. So respectful that I think it can harm my chances with anyone. She's latina, 24, and a little feisty I think. I'm a little shy at first but get comfortable pretty easily. Anyhow, she calls me sweetie. So at the end of the night she tells me how great the night was etc. The next day we continued to text each other and closed it out with a goodnight and "text kisses," lol. So the following day after that I hear nothing from her. My approach was, "lets see if she's really interested." Am I playing my cards right? Or is it just the shy, standoffish Asian in me? Not sure if I should contact her or see if she will initiate anything. I know that Latina's are more aggressive than Asians so I was wondering if I should be the initiator. I'm somewhat interested in her and I think she know's it. So, what should I do? Edited June 29, 2010 by zerovandez
Jilly Bean Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 Your race means nothing. Are you the one with the penis? If so, then man up and call her. Otherwise, you blew it. Or, weren't that interested to begin with.
Author zerovandez Posted June 30, 2010 Author Posted June 30, 2010 Hey thanks. I needed that. I contacted her today and she seemed really happy to hear from me. We're talking about "turn ons" now!
bunnixkisses Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 I think this is just a matter of the dominant and submissive types. She seems outgoing and dominant, and you are shy and usually let others take charge, is that right? Whether I am correct or not, you do need to call her! But it is totally cool to play a little hard to get every now and again. Not talking about not calling her for days, but don't respond to texts right away.. have her text you first.. make sure she doesn't think that right off the bat..you are going to re arrange your life for her (she might get bored with that). Just play it cool.... if she digs ya, she will realize that the shyness is simply a sign of respect, and she will love ya for it!
Author zerovandez Posted July 5, 2010 Author Posted July 5, 2010 Yes, I guess I do come accross as a shy guy but others, especially my female friends, would say that I'm appear to be confident or sometimes overly confident. I don't get it, lol. Anyhow, she's been texting me a few times a day and I do wait minutes before texting her back. Sometimes I do find myself to be too busy to text her back and it's not because I'm playing games. We're actually meeting today and she's super excited! She's also starting to get a little frisky in her text messages! Thanks for all the tips guys/gals! I've been out of the dating scene for 10 years so this is really all new to me. If there any other tips, please post them!
Shakz Posted July 5, 2010 Posted July 5, 2010 As a Latina she's probably used to very assertive guys and she's probably relishing your slow approach. Sounds like things are progressing nicely, but don't wait too long or she might feel insulted. Latina women are usually very romantic so when you're with her keep your eyes open and your ears pealed for signs that she wants you to sweep her into your arms. If she's inviting the gentleman in you is bound to oblige.
Author zerovandez Posted July 7, 2010 Author Posted July 7, 2010 Yes! Things are going very well, actually. Yesterday, during a phone conversation, she told me that she really liked me! I was thrilled, shocked, and flattered all at the same time. I didn't tell her the same, however. I just came out of a 10 year relationship and don't want to jump into things too quick and she is aware of this. I asked if she is somewhat into the "machismo" kinda guy and she stated she wanted someone who can "put her into her place" sometimes. I'm not sure what this means but I must be doing something right if she likes me, right? Anyhow, we kiss and hold hands as if we're an item. Sometimes I'm confused but I'm learning to just go with her flow...
reservoirdog1 Posted July 7, 2010 Posted July 7, 2010 I asked if she is somewhat into the "machismo" kinda guy and she stated she wanted someone who can "put her into her place" sometimes. I'm not sure what this means but I must be doing something right if she likes me, right? You want to walk a bit of a line between seeming too eager (i.e. don't always be the first one to call/text her) and, when you're with her, "taking charge" of the situation. Sounds as though she'd like that. And I suspect that if, occasionally, you grab her and kiss her when she's not totally expecting it, that'll be received well. Sounds like you're off to a great start dude!
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