messymichelle Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 im on my 3rd day of no contact after my ex left me( full story in another thread) any way his sister landed at my house this morning, caught me unaware so i couldnt let on that i wasnt home. me and his sister have always been good friends very close, i knew her before i knew him, anyway she came to tell me that his MOTHER misses me!!! wtf??? she went on to say that i should wait until he sees what he is doing to me and the kids more or less for me to sit and wait until he is finished drinking and sleeping around then welcome the ass back with open arms. i am at a very angry stage now, im just about holding myself together but this ???? what the hell do they take me for??? i was/am very close to his mother, she is a lovely person and treated me better than her own daughters but i didnt want to be in contact with ANY of his family for the simple reason that it hurts too much im still raw and i dont want to hear what a great time he is having his sister went on to sat that his mum doesnt want him staying with her , that she has no room, no patience ect ect, i sat there dumbstuck thinking to myself " what do you want me to do about it???", i got the impression that she was sent here to find out info, because we are friends. i made my excuses bout having to go away and she left now im sitting here wondering, what was that all about??? what is going on??? i love him, i would have givin anything for him to come back two weeks ago, but now ive got to a stage where im now accepting that he doesnt want to come back and im so angry at him for hurting me and the kids this way, im still keeping up with nc my phones are still turned off, any thoughts anyone????
TaraMaiden Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 Keep doing what you are doing. Send his mother and sister a text saying: "It's over. I do not want him back. He is not coming back, and he is not welcome back. Please do not contact me again for any reason other than to ask how I am or how the kids are. All discussion around and about him is completely banned and off the cards. I do not want him mentioned because this is final, and done with. I hope I am clear on this. many thanks for your understanding. This is not up for discussion. Love, *mm*. " And the minute he comes up in any discussion, immediately, calmly, and firmly - change the subject. To anything else not remotely connected, like a nice pair of shoes you saw, or how you hope the good weather holds, because you have laundry to do..... Just make it clear that they can talk about him all they like. You are not going to be drawn into it, and neither will you respond, reply or discuss. Period. That's it.
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