dflight12 Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 So after we have been dating for around 4 months, I had to temporarily move an hour away from home to take an internship. We see eachother at least once a week. Whether she visits me or I go home. We talk everyday, the phone convos can be real long like up to an hour. Honestly I really don't mind. But sometimes if I can;t be on the phone or just am not in the mood for a super long convo I feel she's disappointed or thinking I'm not dedicated etc.. On the other hand if I start to get in the habit to call her and talk to her all the time because I expect she wanted me too, I don;t want it to get to the point where shes like (subconsciously)man this guys a needy wuss. See my last gf didn't need to talk forever on the phone, or didn;t want to at least. And besides these 2 I haven't had a long serious relationship. I don't know what she is expecting. So I am trying to find a middle ground here.
that girl Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 How long are you gone for? I don;t want it to get to the point where shes like (subconsciously)man this guys a needy wuss. This is a crazy fear. The way people keep long distance relationships going is by phone. You are allowed to have other plans or be too tired, in which case explain and promise to call the next day (maybe at a specific time that works for you). But if she isn't seeing you and you start seriously pulling back on the phone time, she'll think you're not interested.
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