BiAxident Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 To grossly simply my situation for the sake of brevity, I am currently "involved" with my XGF. We dated for a little over 2 years, and have known each other for 17 years. After 2 years of NC, I called her and we got together that night and had sex. Since then, which was about 10 weeks ago, we've spent every weekend together. Along the way, she began asking if I wanted to try the relationship again. Being the one who was originally dumped, I was reluctant. Although I told her I was interested in trying again, I didn't act in a loving or romantic manner. Eventually, she began flirting with other men, which shocked me into realizing that she wasn't going to give me a lot of time, and it was now or never. Of course, by that point, she had "turned her feelings off", thus sending me into a tailspin. Since we discussed the situation, which was her telling me she was "looking at her options" and that she didnt know if she wanted to be with me, we've spent four days together. During that time, I brought her flowers as an apology for letting her twist in the wind. We have shared a LOT of romantic physical contact (random kisses, long embraces coupled with cooing/sighs of pleasure. She has asked if I will tell her that she is beautiful (referring to the future as a couple?). We've held hands/wrapped arms in public. She asked if I could be in love with her (I told her previously I loved her but wasn't in love with her). We've discussed informal plans for the Summer. She's mentioned how happy she is that she can make me smile, and thanked me for loving her for who she is. Yet, nothing is official. She has stopped calling me to set up plans, although in fairness at first she did allof the calling. She isn't seeing any other men, or if she is, she isn't spending nearly as much time with them as she is with me. Is she just enjoying being courted and making me "earn" it? Is she jacking me around? Should I press the issue? Not being able to go 100% with my affection without the fear of rejection is twisting me in the wind.
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