Cannondale Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 I've been dating my gf about 3 months; recently (maybe a month ago) she had left her fb page logged in on my computer and it was pretty much open to a message she had written to another guy; the message basically stated she wanted to hook up with him and that she needed his number. I questioned her about it and she started the whole crying speel, saying she was just kidding and doing it for fun to mess with another guy's head...she also said that nothing happened between them. I ended up forgiving her for it and just letting it go. Furthermore; there was another time where she was "catching up" with one of her male friends' who is single till 4:30am after she left my place; granted she told me she was going there through a text after she left...but I still found it super fishy. Now...she caught wind that I had said some not particularly nice stuff about her to one of my friends after we had a fight. She said she is considering taking a break because she can't trust me anymore for what I said. Granted it was not very nice, but I was irritated and just said some stuff I didn't mean. I guess I just don't understand why I can't get a break after I've let so much stuff slide with her...and I don't really know what I should do.
jason83 Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 3 months is not very long. You are both still learning a lot about your personalities and how they blend together. Typically, the rose colored glasses don't come off til about the 5-6 month mark where it gets even more challenging There are a number of red flags here, IMO. But the question is...do you care enough about her and see enough potential to make this work? Maybe a break would do you well. Bottom line though, if you can't trust her and she can't trust you....this isn't going to work
Author Cannondale Posted June 29, 2010 Author Posted June 29, 2010 I'm really not the jealous type, so I can overlook a lot of things...and yes I do trust her. She just has done some things that IMO are very inappropriate and these things have made me question my trust in her in the past. Idk, I'm just at a loss. I said some stuff I didn't mean bec. I was angry, I owned up to it and apologized. I think thats fairly normal as a human being to say stuff you don't mean when your upset, am I wrong? I just don't understand why it's cool for her to make "mistakes" and I can let it go; but when I mess up a bit, she wants a break because she feels she can't trust me.
Pfiend101 Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 shes a selfish bitch. Her messaging guys talking about hooking up then playing it off as a joke. Either shes a cheater or likes major drama. Either way... DTB (dump that bitch)
Diezel Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 It's posts like these that I love to respond to. I've been dating my gf about 3 months; recently (maybe a month ago) she had left her fb page logged in on my computer and it was pretty much open to a message she had written to another guy; the message basically stated she wanted to hook up with him and that she needed his number. I questioned her about it and she started the whole crying speel, saying she was just kidding and doing it for fun to mess with another guy's head...she also said that nothing happened between them. I ended up forgiving her for it and just letting it go. Way to let her off the hook. Her crying is a defense mechanism to turn the situation around on YOU. Analyze what she said. Even if she was telling the truth, she ADMITTED to messing around with another guy's head by asking for his number??? QUALITY GIRL THERE. Furthermore; there was another time where she was "catching up" with one of her male friends' who is single till 4:30am after she left my place; granted she told me she was going there through a text after she left...but I still found it super fishy. I wonder how many times he made her orgasm wildly. My girlfriend better NEVER hang out with a single guy til 4:30 AM or it's over. I will NOT tolerate that. Now...she caught wind that I had said some not particularly nice stuff about her to one of my friends after we had a fight. She said she is considering taking a break because she can't trust me anymore for what I said. Granted it was not very nice, but I was irritated and just said some stuff I didn't mean. I guess I just don't understand why I can't get a break after I've let so much stuff slide with her...and I don't really know what I should do. No, you MEANT what you said. Be a MAN and own up to it, for christ's sake. What your girlfriend has in a feminine boyfriend. You are sitting there taking the emotional abuse like it's nothing. You don't get a break because you didn't stand up for yourself. You know what you do? You thank any religious deity you believe in that she's asking for a break, because she isn't WORTH IT. She's sneaking behind your back and as soon as you show any emotion for it, YOU are the bad guy and she's the VICTIM??? BTW, just so you know for future reference... when a woman says that the relationship needs a break, what she really means is that she is breaking up with you. She is most likely seeing one of the other guys BUT if it falls apart or if it doesn't work out for her, she WILL come back and you better be waiting for her. That's what it means. Man up. Move on. Your EX girlfriend is TRASH.
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