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Girl cheated on her BF with me, and found out he is a cop.

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I went out with some friends recently, and my best friend and his girlfriend brought along a girl. They told me she has a boyfriend, but made it seem a little like she was looking to get out of her relationship because her boyfriend is an ass..etc.

 

Anyways, I met her that night and never asked her about her situation. We danced and she got really frisky with me, and then she came back with my friend and his girlfriend to their place. Apparently she told her girlfriend that I wasn't being really aggressive or making a move, and after word got to me through them I decided to make a move since she was being pretty open physically with me. She never once told me that she had a boyfriend or stopped me from touching, and she was pretty touchy back to me. I made out with her and it was some pretty serious heavy petting, but we didn't have sex. She eventually said that she had to go, so we left and she drove me to my car.. and that was it.

 

I feel pretty bad about the whole thing.. there is no absence of guilt here even though I didn't know the status of her and her boyfriend straight from her. I asked my friend about the status of her again the next day, and he said that she definitely still has a boyfriend, they had been off and on, and then I asked what he does and he told me that he is a cop. Needless to say, this has freaked me out even more and has made me really concerned about what he could do if he found out my identity, etc.

 

Anyways, I've learned my lesson but haven't learned how to get this off my mind.... I've talked to my friends about it who suggest that I'm overreacting... that it is all on her... but I guess I'm just scared about what this guy will do if she tells him. She apparently has cheated on him before twice in the past while in different countries, but never with someone in the same city.

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Well are you planning on telling him? It's not your place to tell him, it should be her :)

NickelbackFan Established Member

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Well are you planning on telling him? It's not your place to tell him, it should be her :)

 

How about you take some of your own advice and tell your husband about what you did with his brother ?

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Nickelback, please keep your posts to the original thread.

 

Cosmopolite, the issue of his being a cop is irrelevant. Who would date a girl who declares that she has a boyfriend? Would you want her to be your girl?

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Nickelback, please keep your posts to the original thread.

 

Cosmopolite, the issue of his being a cop is irrelevant. Who would date a girl who declares that she has a boyfriend? Would you want her to be your girl?

 

You gotta be kidding. It's not "irrelevant", maybe it should be a factor to not date her because she is taken but the fact that he is a COP is not a joke. A lot of innocent people sit in jail for being framed. Play with people who have some sort of "power" emotions and you may feel the heat of fury. His girlfriend is a piece of work.

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I went out with some friends recently, and my best friend and his girlfriend brought along a girl. They told me she has a boyfriend, but made it seem a little like she was looking to get out of her relationship because her boyfriend is an ass..etc.

 

oh but of course:rolleyes: which is why she is still with him and not done anything. She wants to grab ahold of another member before letting go of the one she's got and using him.

 

wooho, green light for you!!!:sick:

 

 

I feel pretty bad about the whole thing.. there is no absence of guilt here even though I didn't know the status of her and her boyfriend straight from her.

 

nice try buddy. you knew it from your friends. you knew what you were doing, don't use her tight lipped(lip on her face that is) demeanor about her life status to say you really didn't know.

 

you knew, and wanted to make a move anyway, so you couldn't feel all too bad about the whole thing.

 

 

I asked my friend about the status of her again the next day, and he said that she definitely still has a boyfriend, they had been off and on, and then I asked what he does and he told me that he is a cop. Needless to say, this has freaked me out even more and has made me really concerned about what he could do if he found out my identity, etc.

 

well, first off, you are assuming because he is a cop, that he is a louse and a lousy human being.

 

you really aren't the one to judge that as you aren't someone who is impartial to messing around with someone you KNOW has a boyfriend, but obviously didn't want you to know because she isn't all that interested in leaving him obviously.

 

 

 

Anyways, I've learned my lesson but haven't learned how to get this off my mind.... I've talked to my friends about it who suggest that I'm overreacting... that it is all on her... but I guess I'm just scared about what this guy will do if she tells him.

 

first off, its not all on her. most of it, but not all.

 

secondly, phffft. I wouldn't sweat her telling him. She is a cheater, a liar by default. No way the little huss is going to tell her bf. And even if she does, the likelihood of her telling him who you are is remote.

 

 

She apparently has cheated on him before twice in the past while in different countries, but never with someone in the same city.

 

and yet she is still with him....yup, sounds like she wants to leave him to me:rolleyes:

 

you got played.

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you got played.
LOL! :lmao:

 

And next you can get shot and he'll get an episode on "Snapped".

(God forbid)

 

People love to play games... :rolleyes:

 

Get yourself a chick that is available and save yourself the drama.

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I don't think you did anything wrong OP, or that you had a lesson to learn, assuming you didn't know she was dating at all before hand. It's nice you feel guilty and all, I suppose, shows you have a conscience, but I wouldn't sweat it. You didn't know she was dating someone.

 

If you did have a glimmer she might have been dating someone as Dexter seems to have gotten from your post, that's pretty rotten. If you were tipped off beforehand she may be dating, it's your responsibility to make sure first. Hell, you probably could have asked your friends either way if things were feeling iffy.

 

You gotta be kidding. It's not "irrelevant", maybe it should be a factor to not date her because she is taken but the fact that he is a COP is not a joke. A lot of innocent people sit in jail for being framed. Play with people who have some sort of "power" emotions and you may feel the heat of fury. His girlfriend is a piece of work.

 

But I do agree with this part. This is the only thing I'd be concerned about it. Every cop I've ever encountered has been on some sort of ego trip. No better way to hurt someone's ego than to make out with his girlfriend without him knowing. Let's just hope this pig keeps his cool and understanding when he finds out and no foulplay goes afoot.

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stay away from a cops wife/girlfriend. good way to get shot,and somehow you'll be at fault. vast majority of cops are on a ego trip and love the power they hold.

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stay away from a cops wife/girlfriend. good way to get shot,and somehow you'll be at fault. vast majority of cops are on a ego trip and love the power they hold.

Ain't that the truth? And cops are some of the biggest male whores on the planet.

 

OP, I wouldn't worry too much. The gal is probably acting no worse than her cop boyfriend.

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If you did have a glimmer she might have been dating someone as Dexter seems to have gotten from your post, that's pretty rotten.

 

he didn't have some vague "glimmer" of an idea she was dating someone. His friends flat out told him she was in a relationship.

 

the problem is he wants to play dumb about it as if he didn't know.

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stay away from a cops wife/girlfriend.

 

how about stay away from ANYONE's wife/girlfriend?

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Ain't that the truth? And cops are some of the biggest male whores on the planet.

 

OP, I wouldn't worry too much. The gal is probably acting no worse than her cop boyfriend.

 

and how is the cop boyfriend acting?

 

please, do tell.......

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cosmopolite27 New Member

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and how is the cop boyfriend acting?

 

please, do tell.......

 

 

Dexter, you are right. I knew that she had some sort of involvement with a BF. I was expecting her to tell me at some point, and as the night moved on without her dropping the BF word I started to get ideas that perhaps it was over. My mistake. I shouldn't have even entertained dancing with her. In any event, in the future if I hear word of a bf, it is in my best interest to ask and immediately put the breaks on when I hear the BF word.

 

As for how he is acting, I don't really know if she has told him or if she plans on telling him. We didn't exchange any information beyond first names, and I obviously am not pursuing this.

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in the future if I hear word of a bf, it is in my best interest to ask and immediately put the breaks on when I hear the BF word.

 

And if he's Po-Po, run forest run!!!!!!! :lmao:

Dexter Morgan Established Member

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As for how he is acting, I don't really know if she has told him or if she plans on telling him. We didn't exchange any information beyond first names, and I obviously am not pursuing this.

 

it was a response to Woman In Blue saying that the huss you were with isn't acting any worse than her cop bf.

 

So I asked her how the cop bf is acting, because WIB doesn't have a clue.

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and how is the cop boyfriend acting?

 

please, do tell.......

 

Woman In Blue, I'm hearing crickets.............................:o

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All cheaters demonize the men their with.

but they still stay with them.

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Well, he'll probably find out about it - they almost always do. Women like this use guys like you because they feel like they're not getting enough attention and they want to make their boyfriends/partners jealous. Doing the affair isn't enough; she'll find a way to drop him the hint and then she'll create a little soap opera, and guess who will be the co-star?

 

If I were you at this point, I would just cut off all contact with this chick. It was a mistake. You were drunk. Bored. Whatever. Cut all contact -- immediately and forever. The more distance you can put between then and now, the better. Each time you contact each other, though, you're building a history, and that ain't good.

 

Drop her and move on.

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