johnny_w Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Is to stop thinking about her! I am Just about under a week with NC. It has felt like 2 weeks. Little by little I felt better but not enough to get over her. We broke up 3 weeks ago and 2 weeks ago she goes Into a rebound which I forgot could've happened. I love hanging with my friends but as soon as I know I have to go home my happiness Is gone because there's way too many triggers at home. Seeing her out the window when she used to come over, Waking up lying next to her or the random snuggle at night. The worst feeling Is to realize that for 8 months we shared love and everything then one day you realize that smile and that feeling you get when you're with them Is gone. Literally gone. To make It worse I'm still out of the Job for quite some time because of stupid recession, therefore I can't afford to fix my car. I've applied for so many Jobs and I Just get nothing back. Most of the time I'm home alone but I do go for runs but yet still the thought of her tears me to pieces. I know that I shouldn't be thinking about her but It Is hard and I know I will eventually get over her. Wish I could have a time machine and no matter how many times I was my pillow case her smell Is still on it drives me insane! I Just really don't know If I'll ever be able to get a Job or get a new car and sort my life out. I feel trapped Just like most people who are In my situation or worse. I believe that she's gonna end up missing me and want to try things again but the thing Is we're still young she has to get a Job and/or do a course at some university. Right now I'm at square one. I only have myself, and for a very long time I've never been able to discipline myself and get a Job It's Just so hard! F*** why the hec did god put me In a human being suit lol
skydiveaddict Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 I know exactly how you feel my friend . Those feelings dont die easily. Being out of work only makes it worse. You should consider joining the military
monkeymaid Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 hay brah! hold your head up! you are running everyday! theres a plus! the job will come. thats just a matter of time ...is there a local community college you can take a class at? a book store to read and learn about somehting? or a library? i know that feeling all too well about smelling them and triggers and such. **** ****ing sucks! i exposed myself to all of the triggers early and often so i got all the sorrow out of my system. ..went to all our restaurants, spots on the beach, did all of the activities we used to do togehter in the same places we used to do them, and it definately helped 2 fold. ...i got used to doing those things again without her, and i went through alot of emotions early on (im still going through them 4 months later, but im rather sensitive) so i could learn that feeling **** is ok, i just cant let them stop my life. keep posting here man! get that **** out as much as possible
BiAxident Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 I feel your pain, my friend. I'm in Michigan, and despite two college degrees, two internships, and volunteer experience I still cannot find employment. But I digress. I dont know how one can stop thinking about another. I thought about my XGF everyday for years before we got together, then everyday since she left me. Eventually, I reached a point where the thoughts and memories were still there, but the pain slowly subsided. One positive, which you noted yourself, is that you're still young. Keep hanging out with you're friends, rely on your social circle for a while. Try to distract yourself with activities (exercise, books, exercise, posting on this site, video games, exercise, sports, exercise).
Author johnny_w Posted June 29, 2010 Author Posted June 29, 2010 hay brah! hold your head up! you are running everyday! theres a plus! the job will come. thats just a matter of time ...is there a local community college you can take a class at? a book store to read and learn about somehting? or a library? i know that feeling all too well about smelling them and triggers and such. **** ****ing sucks! i exposed myself to all of the triggers early and often so i got all the sorrow out of my system. ..went to all our restaurants, spots on the beach, did all of the activities we used to do togehter in the same places we used to do them, and it definately helped 2 fold. ...i got used to doing those things again without her, and i went through alot of emotions early on (im still going through them 4 months later, but im rather sensitive) so i could learn that feeling **** is ok, i just cant let them stop my life. keep posting here man! get that **** out as much as possible Thanks man, It feels better when you know you're not the only one. What you say all sounds too familiar. I understand though, many times before have I dwelled on a paticular moment or place and then get down about it. Especially when I run through the park there's a big stump me and her sat on and bonded like never before, puts a lil pressure on my chest when i run past it. There's a library but I'm not the kind to read lol. I applied for 5 Jobs today, I realized If I do things that will make me feel good about myself and commit to those things I will feel better. I hate It when I dont apply for Jobs because they're not realistic for me. So I feel down, but having applied for some good ones today the next thing I will do Is tidy my room, do my washing, go for a run and have a shower. I'm tired of Imagining what I don't have. Thanks for your help and hopefully whoever else Is reading this thread If they would like to reply?
Author johnny_w Posted June 30, 2010 Author Posted June 30, 2010 And what do you know?! I only applied for a Job yesterday and already 'today' got the Job! I'm so happy makes me feel alot more better. Still, the thought of her still, hurts.
monkeymaid Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 focus on the job bud, focuson the job!! things are already looking up. ...it been what 2 days since you felt all bottom of the barrel and ****! good job and congratulations:cool:
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