big lou Posted February 3, 2004 Posted February 3, 2004 I've known this girl for about 6 months. I'm 24 and she's 20. Anyway, we're neighbors and I've liked her for about 2 or 3 months. Well, this past weekend some of my guy friends were in town for the weekend. We went out to the club on sat. and I noticed that one of my friends was trying to hook up with her ( he didn't know I liked her). Well, when the club finished, she went up to my other girl friend and told her that she didn't know what to do with this guy (my friend) because she "knew" that I liked her. The night passed by. Later on that same night I asked her to speak to her outside. I confirmed to her that I liked her and told her that I never told her because one of my roomates had hooked up with one of her roomates. I just thought it would look bad if I tried to hook up with her after that fact. Anyway, I asked her if she wanted to go out sometime this week and she gladly accepted. My question is that yesterday and today we've seen each other and I kinda feel a little weird or ackward. Maybe it's because of my past experiences with women. Meaning, I dont' want to get my hopes too high and then get heart-broken again. Is this feeling kinda weird or normal. I guess everyone acts weird when they like someone and they know it. What should I do? Go for it, or just lay back because I'm scared of being hurt?
Reckless Posted February 3, 2004 Posted February 3, 2004 There's an interesting thread running at the moment about fear and intimacy http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t32373/ bottom line is that you really have to get over your fear and take another chance. No, you don't HAVE to, you can live alone, or isolate yourself from any chance of love - people do, but love is grand when you find it so why not go get your feet wet? This girl more or less turned down another guy for you, she happily accepted when you asked her out and is waiting for you to follow through. It's normal to feel a little nervous but why don't you just suggest a coffee or a walk and see how it goes. Take it slowly but don't wait too long or she'll think you've changed your mind. The are no guarantees against hurt I'm afraid but don't let that stop you from trying. Good Luck R.
theedge Posted February 4, 2004 Posted February 4, 2004 Happens to everyone I am sure. I get the same way, and its very difficult. If you know the person well it might be more confortable. The best I can say is at one point test the waters, see how she feels about you. I have been the person to not ask probing questons or to ask flat out what the person wants. Problem with not asking though is you live in a fantasy world of hope, when they may not feel any romantic chemistry. Just take the situation as it comes, maybe try some questions.
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