MalachiX Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I've got a conundrum. I was with a girl for about three years and the last year or so of the relationship was long distance. We broke up in early 2008 and havn't spoken since. She never sent me back all the T-shirts she had of mine (and DVDs) and I simply gathered all her stuff and stuck in in a box. As I said, that was about two years ago. Well, I'm moving across the country, to LA, and as I was cleaning out my old apartment I came across the box with her stuff. Now, I doubt she'll miss the bra, tank-top, and two pairs of socks she left. However, I also found inside two paintings she made for me when she went through an art phase. Clearly, I can't throw these out but I also don't really want to contact with her. We've both moved on (I assume), we havn't spoken for two years, and I think it would be really awkward. I don't have an address on her at this point so the only option is Facebook. Thoughts?
GrayClouds Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I've got a conundrum. I was with a girl for about three years and the last year or so of the relationship was long distance. We broke up in early 2008 and havn't spoken since. She never sent me back all the T-shirts she had of mine (and DVDs) and I simply gathered all her stuff and stuck in in a box. As I said, that was about two years ago. Well, I'm moving across the country, to LA, and as I was cleaning out my old apartment I came across the box with her stuff. Now, I doubt she'll miss the bra, tank-top, and two pairs of socks she left. However, I also found inside two paintings she made for me when she went through an art phase. Clearly, I can't throw these out but I also don't really want to contact with her. We've both moved on (I assume), we havn't spoken for two years, and I think it would be really awkward. I don't have an address on her at this point so the only option is Facebook. Thoughts? Mutual friend?
norajane Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 She made them for you, you said. So why do you feel the need to give them back? She would have asked for them if she wanted them, 2 years ago. Keep them, or give them to someone else, or to Goodwill. They were gifts so you can do whatever you want with them, including throwing them out.
Author MalachiX Posted June 28, 2010 Author Posted June 28, 2010 Sadly with her living in Ohio and me in Louisiana (and about to move to Los Angeles); we don't really have any mutual friends. I guess it's really my fault for not doing this a few months after we broke up when I still had a valid address (or I could have sent it to her college). As for throwing them out, that's not an option. My principles forbid me from destroying any art, regaurdless of my history with it. Goodwill might be the way to go.
lonelygurl Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 (edited) I've got a conundrum. I was with a girl for about three years and the last year or so of the relationship was long distance. We broke up in early 2008 and havn't spoken since. She never sent me back all the T-shirts she had of mine (and DVDs) and I simply gathered all her stuff and stuck in in a box. As I said, that was about two years ago. Well, I'm moving across the country, to LA, and as I was cleaning out my old apartment I came across the box with her stuff. Now, I doubt she'll miss the bra, tank-top, and two pairs of socks she left. However, I also found inside two paintings she made for me when she went through an art phase. Clearly, I can't throw these out but I also don't really want to contact with her. We've both moved on (I assume), we havn't spoken for two years, and I think it would be really awkward. I don't have an address on her at this point so the only option is Facebook. Thoughts? Personally, I wouldn't return the stuff. If you don't want it, give it away or throw it out. I have found stuff of my X's and I have given most of it to goodwill or my daughter to try to sell at a garage sale. I just don't think it is worth it. If she had of been concerned about her stuff she should have picked it up when you split up. Edited June 28, 2010 by lonelygurl
GrayClouds Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 It sounds like you are looking for a reason to contact her. If you want to go ahead, but do you really think she would want painting that reminder her of a EX, let alone do you think her new boy wants to look at it? Otherwise, give them away, sell them, bring them to Goodwill.
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