ChaseYng2005 Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 My man and I took a trip to Atlanta. Weve been together 1.5 years and were engaged up until about a week or so ago. The trip created some arguments due to this and that. In a bar he left me alone with his friend while he and someone else did their own thing. He said nothing happened. I didn't believe him. When we got home I left and went and stayed with my parents a few days because I was so upset. I told him I was doing this, I didn't just up and leave without saying anything. He got upset and when I returned he wouldnt let me back in the house. We were moving from an apartment to a house that I helped pay for but he wouldnt let me in. After days of talking he says that I was the one who didnt take the initiative to move in with him. That he loves me and still wants me but he needs time to think. I decided to end it after he said he was going to spend the day with me but ended up going to a bar. I was at the same bar and was so hurt I ended up hooking up with some guy. He didnt see me though, Im sure of it. The next day he asks me "so is this really your decison, for us to break up?" I ignored the text but the following day, which is today I told him no and that i still had feelings for him. He said he didnt want me out of his life, which led me to think does that mean you dont want to break up with me because you know I wont speak to you forever? I told him what I needed from him, being number one in his life, more sex, more time together and he agreed on that, but still said "it's just difficult to figure this all out. " Im so confused and heartbroken. He is making me so irritated and angry that I could just strangle him. But I love him. Has anyone been in anything like this and if so, what was the best course of action. Is this bull**** really worth my time??
trippi1432 Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Hi - I noticed that you have been posting over on the Breaking Up forum as well and tried to get some background on what has been going on. It would be good to have some more of the whole story here since it seems to be buried in a multitude of posts on other forums on LS. It sounds like the two of you have been breaking up and getting back together for these 1.5 years, and by the way he seems to put you in Limbo (based on your other posts - him not wanting to settle down until he is 30...etc, etc), it almost sounds like he is stringing you along. If you don't mind my asking, how old are the both of you?
just_some_guy Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I decided to end it after he said he was going to spend the day with me but ended up going to a bar. I was at the same bar and was so hurt I ended up hooking up with some guy. He didnt see me though, Im sure of it. What exactly does this mean? He stood you up, went to a bar, you just happened to be at the bar and had sex with a guy you met there? Did he not see you at the bar, or did he not see you go to have sex with the guy? The next day he asks me "so is this really your decison, for us to break up?" I ignored the text but the following day, which is today I told him no and that i still had feelings for him. He said he didnt want me out of his life, which led me to think does that mean you dont want to break up with me because you know I wont speak to you forever? I told him what I needed from him, being number one in his life, more sex, more time together and he agreed on that, but still said "it's just difficult to figure this all out. " Im so confused and heartbroken. He is making me so irritated and angry that I could just strangle him. But I love him. Has anyone been in anything like this and if so, what was the best course of action. Is this bull**** really worth my time?? First, off, he's not "making you..." feel anything. Your emotions are yours and yours alone. Your actions are erratic, full of anger and destructiveness. You have absolutely got to get to the core of yourself, do some growing and maturing of YOU. An emotionally healthy man would not get involved into this rollercoaster of anger and drama. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you have to start with becoming a healthy person in and of yourself, then seek out healthy persons to relate with. Sounds like it is time to put down the boyfriend and work on you. Look at this hurt as an opportunity.
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