Dermwerx Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I'm new to these boards and I just found this board by accident. Here's a little about me. I'm a 23 year old woman and I have been married to my husband for almost 2 years. We have been to counseling but honestly, it changed us for a week and went back to normal. I have been wanting to separate from my husband for awhile thinking he would change but he hasn't. I met a great guy while I was working and grew strong feelings for him. I went into my job not wanting anything, but to just work and now everything ended up falling into my lap. I am NOT in love with my husband whatsoever. I want to say I'm in love with the other man. He is single by the way. The other man treats me with such respect that it's nice. I have been going through this for about a month now. My husband doesn't know that I have been fooling around with him but does know I like him. I want to divorce and go with this guy or possibly move with him right away. I have heard stories that sometimes it's not greener on the other side but I don't know. I tried to make my long story short so their are some parts that I left out. Any advice on anything would be great.
Owl Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 File for divorce. Not rocket science. You don't love your husband. You have no kids, no complications to make divorce difficult at this point. You're both unhappy in the marriage, not applying anything from counseling, and this is still in the "honeymoon" period. It won't get any better when kids come along, stress from all the other outside influences, etc... If you don't like your marriage now, then you're better off ending it sooner rather than waiting and hurting others. Get divorced. THEN see where things go with this single guy.
sadintexas Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 It doesn't really matter if the grass is greener on the otherside. Another person shouldn't be the influence to stay in your M or not.
whichwayisup Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Divorce your husband. That's the only advice I can give you, really since it seems like you have no interest in giving your marriage more time to work and give your H a chance to reconnect with you.
U2RockZz Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 (edited) if you are not in love with your H,then why waste his time and money for your act...tell him what you have told to the forum....get the D...all men seems to be blind and dumb Edited June 28, 2010 by U2RockZz
Fight4Me Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 If you divorce your husband, you need to do it without expectations of being with the OM. In fact, you should set aside the affair until the divorce is final. The last thing you need is to get out of a bad short-term marriage and jump into another serious relationship right away. Spend some time living on your own, and maybe even seek individual counseling to make sure you're equipped to form and sustain healthy relationships going forward.
Silly_Girl Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 If you divorce your husband, you need to do it without expectations of being with the OM. In fact, you should set aside the affair until the divorce is final. The last thing you need is to get out of a bad short-term marriage and jump into another serious relationship right away. Spend some time living on your own, and maybe even seek individual counseling to make sure you're equipped to form and sustain healthy relationships going forward. I have an 8yr abuse-filled relationshop behind me (and I'm considered 'smart' amongst my peers... guffaw!!) to support this advice. If your H is not the one for you, then he's not. COULD he be the one for you, if there was no one else on the scene?... something to think about. Don't leave your husband for someone else, leave him because the marriage is not valuable for the two of you. Have you tried marriage counselling? If you - even for a split-second - meant your marriage vows as you said them, you should consider asking a professional to help you work out whether you and your husband have something you can rebuild. This is a tremendous opportunity. You have a choice. If you end things, you can NEVER go back to this time and 'give it one last shot'. Consider counselling for you personally, or for the two of you.
Darth Vader Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 Stop wasting your husband's life and putting him at risk for STD's, tell hubby of your affair and just divorce him so he can have someone who will be faithful to him, he deserves so much better!
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