spiegel27 Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Hey everyone I wanted to get a thread going on what everyone thinks of this question. Basically I found myself contacting my GF via tx/calling way to much so I really cut back and now she contacts me a lot more then she use to, why is that?
Sivok Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Probably because she was used to the degree of attention you were giving her and might feel like she's losing you a little, making her try harder to initiate contact.
crimsonmike Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 If you ever figure that out, please let us all know. It is something in the female gene, I think. They all do it. Even the ones who say they don't.
biermadchen Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Probably because she was used to the degree of attention you were giving her and might feel like she's losing you a little, making her try harder to initiate contact. i think Sivok hit it right on the head; you had her counting on frequent contact and then it may have felt a bit jarring when you cut back...to you it probably seemed like a natural progression of things to cut back on the amount of calling/texting because the thought came to you gradually, but to her it could have seemed abrupt which would leave her wondering "what changed?" or such...just reassure her that it's not your feelings that have changed, just the logistics involved?
BeautifulMan Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Women want what they can't have. American society has encouraged the overvaluing of women and they are conditioned to being chased, being treated as a higher human being simply because of random genetics. Men fall victim by acting like pathetic animals, exchanging their pride for a mere chance at making a beautiful woman smile or laugh by showering them with attention and compliments. Only when a man truly acts as a male animal should, the female fills her role to be submissive and catering to the dominant male. Only then will order be restored.
alphamale Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Basically I found myself contacting my GF via tx/calling way to much so I really cut back and now she contacts me a lot more then she use to, why is that? because chicks like guys who are aloof and not clingy
that girl Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 She is contacting you more because she misses you. But one thing you have to realize is this usually works on a bell curve in a decent relationship. The guys posting about how women like unavaliable men don't seem to get this. You contact her lots = little contact from her (because she talks to you all the time, so no need to get in touch) You contact her a little less = more contact from her (because she wants to talk to you and will get in touch, she's probably not even thinking about your lack of contact) Continuing little contact = little contact from her (is he still interested? maybe he doesn't even like me) Continuing/Even less contact from you = eventual break up I think if you are in a relationship with someone, intentionally pulling back on contact is a bad idea. It is one thing if you've gotten legitimately busy or she's asked you to lay off, but otherwise it is game playing.
stillafool Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 What do you guys do when you stop contacting her and she still DOESN'T contact you? That's what I use to do. Then the chase was really on.
monkey00 Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 She is contacting you more because she misses you. But one thing you have to realize is this usually works on a bell curve in a decent relationship. The guys posting about how women like unavaliable men don't seem to get this. You contact her lots = little contact from her (because she talks to you all the time, so no need to get in touch) You contact her a little less = more contact from her (because she wants to talk to you and will get in touch, she's probably not even thinking about your lack of contact) Continuing little contact = little contact from her (is he still interested? maybe he doesn't even like me) Continuing/Even less contact from you = eventual break up I think if you are in a relationship with someone, intentionally pulling back on contact is a bad idea. It is one thing if you've gotten legitimately busy or she's asked you to lay off, but otherwise it is game playing. I agree, I don't think game playing should be done in a relationship. With my gf, there's a balance and we contact each other almost the same amount. Though I would say she does it a slightly bit more. There is some truth to being aloof, but only if that's how you naturally are or are preoccupied with activities....not if you are doing it intentionally. Aside from that I think everyone likes a good chase. Even guys are susceptible to calling/contacting women more often also.
SilentVoice Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 I really don't know . I wish I did . I guess we want what we can't have.
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