Forget About Her Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Long story short, I cheated on my girlfriend about 8 months into our relationship. It was a fling for about 3-4 months, but nothing serious. We made up about 3 weeks after it happen, and we've been together ever since. She told me tonight that she has never gotten over that, and that she is always mad at me because she still holds a lot of repressed resentment for what I did. We hardly ever see each other, even though we live 5 minutes apart, we talk once or twice a day, and are maybe intimate once a month. Shes' 24, I'm 28, btw. I finally decided we needed to have 'the talk' tonight. It went fairly well, as we both were on the same page and saw it coming. It's not like I wanted to see someone else, or she was interested in someone else (to my knowledge). Man, I hate this sh*t, it's hard.
Jilly Bean Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I'm surprised she hung in there for 5 years, honestly. Sorry for you both - but it sounds like the best. I'm sure you both learned a lot from this...
Author Forget About Her Posted June 28, 2010 Author Posted June 28, 2010 I'm surprised she hung in there for 5 years, honestly. Sorry for you both - but it sounds like the best. I'm sure you both learned a lot from this... Yea, but it still sucks. Our relationship actually got so much stronger after it happen and we went strong for a few years. It was actually awesome! We were so happy together, but she's just been so mean to me lately, and she said it's because she never really dealt with what happened 4 years ago. I tried to be an awesome boyfriend, I never cheated again, and we had a great few years. But there really is no excuse for never seeing each other when we live so close, and hardly ever speaking on the phone. I guess it slowly began falling apart, and neither one of us took the initiative to stop it. I'm really hurt right now, but it's not as bad as my last breakup which had me really messed up for months. I guess they become easier as you become more experienced in life. I really do wish her the best. We are both starting law school at different schools in august. She went to an incredibly expensive private school, and I made a comment to her about not proposing to someone $100k in debt. Well, i guess this is the straw that broke the camels back, and it has been on her mind. She wants a ring, kids, etc., and I'm not there yet. I want to finish school, then see where the cards are.
skydiveaddict Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 cheating can leave a bad wound my friend. sometimes it cant be healed
Author Forget About Her Posted June 28, 2010 Author Posted June 28, 2010 cheating can leave a bad wound my friend. sometimes it cant be healed Very true. I told her that I understood, and didn't fault her. She apologized for not dealing with it sooner, and "stringing me on" for so long with these feelings. She wanted to know if we could still be "best friends". Lol, I realize that's not probable or even possible after 5 years.
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