marsle85 Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Ok. Little lesson for next time. He says: Guy: Tickets were a little expensive Girl: Awww, you're so sweet. Thank you again, I can't wait to go. kill him with kindness. Make him feel appreciated and like he's taking you on the best dates. MONEY cannot give him that feeling. You can.
Choboto Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I stand by my first assessment, he's a cheapskate. I mean really, who buys tickets and then complains to the person they're supposed to be trying to impress that they were really expensive? That's just plain tacky, once again. But hey it'll only get worse as time wears on so if you two continue to date, have fun. as engadget said maybe he meant it in a they have gotta alot more expensive than last time he bought some way.
txsilkysmoothe Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I guess I'm confused. It seems he is explaining why he let you pay for half of the first date and why he gave you a chance to do the same on the second date - because he thought YOU would want it that way. But it is his intention and desire to pay for the second date, right?
Ruby Slippers Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 In my experience, men who approach money in this way are azzholes in many other ways, too. Stingy and selfish.
bac Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 This behavior does not make any sense to me. If he has no money, why would he want to go on an expensive date? Why don't he want to do something for free such as walking in a park? He is preoccupied with money for some reason. Perhaps he is a player or a personality disorder. If you are looking for a serious relationship, he is probably hopeless. If you are looking just for sex, you can use him just for sex. But, the behavior is strange, and my guess is that he might be not capable of sex.
Art_Critic Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 as engadget said maybe he meant it in a they have gotta alot more expensive than last time he bought some way. Unless it was 1950 when he bought his last ticket then the average price of a baseball ticket hasn't changed much in the last 15 or so years..and if he is complaining about 4 bucks then things are even worse for the guy Here is a quick look at the history of the average ticket price of a baseball ticket. http://eh.net/encyclopedia/article/haupert.mlb The guy is being a cheapass.. who even mildy complains about the price of a ticket to a baseball game and expects to impress someone
Engadget Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Unless it was 1950 when he bought his last ticket then the average price of a baseball ticket hasn't changed much in the last 15 or so years.. Here is a quick look at the history of the average ticket price of a baseball ticket. http://eh.net/encyclopedia/article/haupert.mlb The guy is being a cheapass.. who even mildy complains about the price of a ticket to a baseball game and expects to impress someone You've never been to Fenway have you? The price of those tickets have spiked to insane levels.
Confusedalways Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Yikes, OP I can't fault you because my manners probably would have kicked in and I would have said something like that, too. Regardless-- he reallllllllly shouldn't have mentioned the cost of the tickets to you, that's SUPER awkward. I feel like most gentlemen really don't want you knowing how much something was to them, and wouldn't mention it. Likewise, if I bought a guy I was seeing something I wouldn't want him to know the cost of it, either. Paying aside, he's making you feel awkward and definitely pinning something on you that isn't true, which is enough to not make you enthusiastic about this date. He just seems kind of... out there?
Confusedalways Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 You've never been to Fenway have you? The price of those tickets have spiked to insane levels. You speak the truth here!!!!!
Art_Critic Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 My God.. there are men on this thread whining about the price of tickets for a date... hahahahahahahaha Good Luck Guys..... hahahahahahahahaha
Shakz Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 This behavior does not make any sense to me. If he has no money, why would he want to go on an expensive date? Why don't he want to do something for free such as walking in a park? He is preoccupied with money for some reason. Perhaps he is a player or a personality disorder. If you are looking for a serious relationship, he is probably hopeless. If you are looking just for sex, you can use him just for sex. But, the behavior is strange, and my guess is that he might be not capable of sex. Well that's quite an assumption. Best you could say is he might not be capable of paying for sex.
Sivok Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 You clearly like the guy and seem to be on the defensive here, Ice. Yes, he's being very awkward. He seems like the type that would build resentment over paying for a date - very stingy. Go on the second date if you want, but the Red Flags are raised high.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 My God.. there are men on this thread whining about the price of tickets for a date... hahahahahahahaha Good Luck Guys..... hahahahahahahahaha It's hilarious. Unless you're a grown woman the same age as these whiny boys.
Woggle Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Anybody who works for their money in this economy will understand why a man is stingy. Money does not grow on trees and I have to deal with a lot of crap and politics in the corporate world to get it so if I were single why would I waste it on a woman who might not even call me the next dayt? You would think with women earning their own money they would understand this but it has only gotten worse.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 If money is tight, he should ask her to take a walk or go have (a cheap, homemade) lunch in the park, not buy expensive tickets then complain about the price. That's just being a douche bag.
VertexSquared Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 He's a cheapskate. Nobody trying to woo a woman successfully is going to even so much as cringe at a price unless he wants to come off as a douche. You just pay it -- period. You shouldn't even let your date know or see the price. It's just tacky for him to do something nice for someone only to simultaneously guilt-trip her by making it sound as if he's undertaking a huge expense and going out of his way to be romantic. A more forthcoming gentleman would not even bring up the cost at all and would simply be romantic without mentioning it or loading the concept with burden. "You just come off as a hardworking girl" may come across as a compliment, but it's a veiled way to hide his cheap nature. You've never been to Fenway have you? The price of those tickets have spiked to insane levels. If the tickets are as insane as you claim, then you shouldn't go to such an event on a second date if you're not willing to undertake the expense. There are cheaper alternatives. Picking something expensive and then trying to guilt your date is incredibly retarded.
Engadget Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 My God.. there are men on this thread whining about the price of tickets for a date... hahahahahahahaha Good Luck Guys..... hahahahahahahahaha Read better please.
Jilly Bean Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Anybody who works for their money in this economy will understand why a man is stingy. Money does not grow on trees and I have to deal with a lot of crap and politics in the corporate world to get it so if I were single why would I waste it on a woman who might not even call me the next dayt? You would think with women earning their own money they would understand this but it has only gotten worse. It's not about how much money a guy drops on a date, Wog. It's about whomever asks the other out should plan a date they can afford. I've said this before - I've had incredibly romantic dates sitting on the beach watching the sunset, or going 4-leaf clover picking. BUT, I DO expect if a man asks me out, that again, he plans a date within his budget. This could mean hiking and an ice cream, flight to Italy, parking near the airport and watching the planes take off - lol. The point is that he asked, he knows his wallet. To throw in her face makes him a cheap ass. A gentleman wouldn't be so classless...
that girl Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 He sounds really manipulative and you sound sweet. He chose to make the second date expensive and then tried to manipulate you into paying for part of the tickets. Like "prove to me you aren't a gold digger." When in reality, he just wanted to go to the game.
VertexSquared Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Reminds me of a guy I know who always "has a hard time seeing the bill" and shows it to his date to ask what the price is. He just can't invite someone out without letting her know how much it costs.
blueberries Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 i agree, he sounds like a cheap manipulative douche. he's twisting things and is making you feel guilty. saying that you seem like a hard working independent woman is his way of deflecting his cheapness. from my experience, if the man is stingy from the start, he'll be even more stingy as time goes on. i wouldn't go on another date with him.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 The only time I ever show the bill is with my friends and that's because we go dutch. More often than not, on a date, the guy would just take the check, pay for it and that's that. This is already the second date? This guy is really cheap. He reminds of someone I " used" to know who took me and my friend out for drinking. He kept ordering shot after shot but when the bill came, I got stuck with the tab because he supposedly didn't bring enough money. If a guy can't pay then he shouldn't date.
Shakz Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 The only time I ever show the bill is with my friends and that's because we go dutch. More often than not, on a date, the guy would just take the check, pay for it and that's that. This is already the second date? This guy is really cheap. He reminds of someone I " used" to know who took me and my friend out for drinking. He kept ordering shot after shot but when the bill came, I got stuck with the tab because he supposedly didn't bring enough money. If a guy can't pay then he shouldn't date. Oh I've done that. It may not have been on purpose. I invited a woman to dinner and when the bill came discovered I left my wallet at home. I was mortified. I had to call my brother to come down and bring my wallet and it took forever. She kept saying let's go and I kept trying to come up with a reason to stay. Finally he shows up and, like a moron, just hands me the wallet right in front of her! To my relief she thought it was pretty funny that I would go to such lengths, but it would have been much worse to ask her to pay.
hoping2heal Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 So earlier this week I created a thread about a guy I met online, went to dinner/drinks with and how he asked if I wanted to contribute to the bill. After friends and family telling me this was a bad sign that he didn't treat and mixed responses here, I decided I still wanted to try a second date. So he took control on the second date and came up with the idea that we should go to a baseball game. So he bought the tickets and is telling me about the seats over IM and proceeds to tell me that they were pretty expensive. I start to feel bad and ask him if he would like any money for them. I'm sure some of you will say this was a stupid move on my part, but I guess that was just my manners kicking in. So when I offer he says "I could be generous and say you don't owe me a thing, but something tells me you wouldn't want it to be that way." So I say it's up to him and he says he'll cover the tickets. So now I'm curious and ask him what makes him think I wouldn't want him to pay for the tickets. He says that I seem like a girl who has worked hard for what I have gotten in life and seeing that it's only our second date he thought I would want to at least pay for my ticket. But that he's trying to be a nice and romantic guy by doing this. Now I just feel even weirder than I did before. Why is he telling me all of this? I certainly don't think I give off a vibe that says I never want to be treated to a dinner hahaha. Is this weird or is it just me? I hope you aren't planning to go out with him again. His responses were very off putting and I wouldn't want to share a cab with that guy let alone a relationship. The minute he started mentioning the tickets were expensive? It would be over for me then and there. I might not have left; but there would never be another date after that. Well..then again, there wouldn't have been another date in the first place if he didn't pay for dinner. I don't mind going dutch or paying for things after the first date; but If it's the first date and I'm going half? I feel more like your friend than your lady and I'm not charmed by that.
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