My boyfriend changed so much for the worst.

[lee_lee]

My boyfriend and I are both 18. and we met through my cousin he had dated a friend of hers like a year before who is 14( I was the first older girl he had dated). well we first started off talking I didn't want to rush into anything since I had been hurt by my last boyfriend a few months before and was weary but he did want to rush because he told me I love you after two weeks of knowing me.At first he seemed very nice he always told me everything I wanted to hear and was very infatuated with me well not long after we had been talking about a month I get a phone call saying that another girl has asked him out and that he said yes and then he went on to tell me that he thought I was too bossy and that he did not like being single well then he told me later on that day that he was breaking up with her that he couldn't be with her when he still had feelings for me . Well we started dating that day and Up until this day I don't know if he made up a girl to get me into a relationship with him quicker or what , but I never heard about the other girl again.Well I guess all good things come to an end because now that we have been dating for awhile he has changed it's like he is always getting a kick out of me being hurt or in pain. Even though he swears he loves me.He always wants me to remind him that he is the most important thing in my life. Sometimes he will ask me what I would do if he left me and he loves for me to say that I would cry and be depressed and all that and one time I was kidding with him and I said i turn heads everywhere I go and he was like yea right not everywhere and sometimes he is the nicest guy in the world and then sometimes he just seems to love hurting my feelings. He also tells me very often that all the girls love him and that girls try to kiss him and stuff .He won't even bring his guy friends around me because he is too afraid I will like one of them.Sometimes he will even tell me things like It doesn't seem the way between us anymore our love doesn't feel like it used to and then he will come back and say I'm so sorry I love you I didn't mean that and he will constantly change his mind about something, and in the past I told him that I couldn't take much more and that I could do better and he was like if you can do better then me go right ahead but most guys will only want you for sex, and he has broken up with me in the past over rumors that he heard. I am just wondering what is wrong with him . Should I leave or stay. He always demands my attention and it seems like I do more for him then I do for myself. so please help me out is my boyfriend insecure or what?

[Cracker Jack]

He's clearly a manipulator. He loves toying with your feelings. No genuine boyfriend would constantly be thrilled at hearing his girlfriend remind him that "he's the most important thing in your life ", or that she would "cry and be depressed", if he left, nor would he feel a need to remind you that girls give him attention and try to kiss him. He knows deep down this is bothering you and he's taking advantage of your kindness.

 

Luckily, you're young, so you have a chance to get out of this "relationship" before it causes further damage. I know it's hard to let go sometimes, but he's not a good guy. His moments of kindness are for show only. Don't stay.

[norajane]

He didn't change for the worse. This is who he is, and who he always was. It's just that he was on good behavior in the beginning when he was trying to date you. Now he's showing you his true colors.

 

This is why people date - to get to know each other. And many times, when they get to know each other, they don't like each other, and the relationship ends.

 

Now you know who he is. If you don't like him, dump him. There are other guys out there, guys who will treat you much better. Find one of them.

[phineas]

I 2nd nora jane.

The hard rule is people don't change.

For the good or the bad.

 

for the most part.

 

This is who he is. He was just pretending to be someone else while he hooked you.

 

Now that he has you....