Brady_to_Moss Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 What was the reason why you didn't want to date or don't want to date at this present moment?
Serenitynow Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 (edited) When I found out my ex gf killed herself . Edited June 28, 2010 by Serenitynow
aerogurl87 Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 SerenityNow that's horrible! My condolences... I didn't want to date a year ago because I didn't trust guys period and I didn't want some guy trying to control me.
skydiveaddict Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 What was the reason why you didn't want to date or don't want to date at this present moment? Still getting over the last one. plus, I am getting deployed soon
Jilly Bean Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 After every huge break-up. It takes a while to want to go through it all again...
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted June 28, 2010 Author Posted June 28, 2010 See i have never been in a R. I have dated a few women but never connected with them. I dont even try to date now due to the fact that now it just seems like a waste for me and if i run into the right person..then maybe..but i am going to live my life and not try and do something that i have no interest in. That and the fact that it seems like now your chances of being cheat on are 50-50 so id rather stay away from that. I really dont trust people at all.
skydiveaddict Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 That and the fact that it seems like now your chances of being cheat on are 50-50 so id rather stay away from that. I really dont trust people at all. I dont either
JohnnyDrama Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I was hurt in my last relationship some time ago. I took time off from dating and instead hung out and chilled, then I got wrapped up in my career and being the only child I never clung on to the idea of needing to be relationship but the past couple of years I have changed and realize I don't want to be alone.
Engadget Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I got out of a LTR and don't want to date at all at the moment.
TouchedByViolet Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 then I got wrapped up in my career and being the only child I never clung on to the idea of needing to be relationship but the past couple of years I have changed and realize I don't want to be alone. My situation is practically identical . Growing up as an only child I never felt like I needed a relationship, and then focusing on my school/career lots of time went by. Recently I too have realized I don't want to be alone.
lovelydemon Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I just got out of a LTR in which I was always giving, giving and getting nothing in return, so f*ck it, I'm not giving my wonderful self to anyone anymore!
Blade Runner Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Hey OP. I'm not against dating myself - but I don't do it. I don't buy the fact that guys need a girlfriend, and vice versa. I see people in relationships and out on the street, dating - and I must admit, the concept interests me from a distance, kind of like when you're watching a good film. But I'm too much of an introvert to want to spend that much time with one person, no matter how great they are. One could argue that it's 'cause I haven't found the right person yet, and that's probably true to an extent. But who knows. I sometimes wonder why is it guys around me have this "drive" to want to go and meet women, I've never had that. But we're all different. I think the best thing to do is just live your life, do things you want to do, be friendly to people, see what happens. If you end up finding someone you really connect with, great, but otherwise you know, I don't think it's the only way to get happiness. And of course what you want out of life can really change as you get older/go through different stages of life.
SilentVoice Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I just don't see how a relationship doesn't end up in stress. I like the idea of a relationship . I keep faux relationships, but I can't deal with a real one.Maybe one day I will get over it . So I am not in a relationship or dating because I can't deal with the stress.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I was absolutely sure I was going to say no--I've never been against dating. But on second thought there was a time where a few dates with different women which turned into seemingly budding relationships turned out to be ruses to get, get and get some more with disingenuous techniques for controlling me without giving anything up. I felt like a cow being milked and got angry and sick of it. I eventually went to night school and got involved with someone I could sense was into me and not what I have or had.
Serenitynow Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I sometimes wonder why is it guys around me have this "drive" to want to go and meet women, I've never had that. But we're all different. I feel the same way. I have been on dating sites, and made posts on here about dating women, but I have never had that drive, where I see a woman, and think, OMG I have to meet that girl. Like you see in a movie. All the gf's I've had, and 1 marriage, just happened with no pursuit by me at all.
txsilkysmoothe Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I stopped dating after an unplanned pregnancy. My daughter's father didn't want to be involved. This failed relationship was preceded by two failed marriages. I realized I was terrible at choosing men. This occurred in 1997. I didn't start dating again until 2008.
Engadget Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Not wanting to date sucks, because I miss being in a relationship. However at this point in my life a relationship wouldn't work at all for me since just about everything has gone wrong. Mentally, I'm not at all ready for another relationship either, too much baggage from the last one as it was six years long.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Lately I feel like I just have too many issues, or I keep choosing issue-ridden men, so there's no hope for me. When a man smiles at me, I sometimes smile back, but sometimes I just think to myself, "Why bother? It won't work out, anyway." At this point, I think it's safe to say I am bitter.
Star Gazer Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 After every huge break-up. It takes a while to want to go through it all again... Ditto. But then I force myself to "get out there" and date, just to date, and eventually a guy will catch my attention for me to be willing to actually date-date him.
kdark Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Lately I feel like I just have too many issues, or I keep choosing issue-ridden men, so there's no hope for me. When a man smiles at me, I sometimes smile back, but sometimes I just think to myself, "Why bother? It won't work out, anyway." At this point, I think it's safe to say I am bitter. I feel the same way about women. A girl will show interest in me and all that goes through my head is "Why even bother? It's just going to end in misery." This is after coming to the realization that I have no desire to be in a relationship, and no desire for a friend with benefits. All my attempts at either ended in disaster. So I'll just casually chat with women and be friendly, but keep them at arms length. Dating isn't worth the hassle.
sunshinegirl Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I took a 5-ish month "guyaitus" last year when I realized I had started approaching every first date with an attitude of "so I wonder what brand of crazy/jerk/narcissist THIS one is going to be?" It was one of the best things I've ever done. I got refocused on my priorities, family, friends, work, and hobbies, and I stopped feeling like I *needed* a guy or a relationship. It was sooooo liberating. Highly recommend it. Postscript: I met my now-fiance during the guyaitus and a few months after my dating break ended, we started dating. And about seven months after we started dating, we got engaged.
Knittress Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 It was nearly two years ago that my ex left (with half the furniture, I might add), and took up with his 'friend.' No prior relationship discussion or anything. After all our years together, the second he left it was like I was dead to him, and since he was pretty much all I had by way of family - it was really hard on me. I said I was through with men, but I keep hanging around sites like these for some reason.... so I guess we'll see. I still probably won't 'date' though, since it weirds me out when guys approach me out of the blue. Good thing I like cats, eh?
cdubs32 Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 What was the reason why you didn't want to date or don't want to date at this present moment? Recently just gave it up. Did online dating for a year, asked out a lot of women in person buy never led to a single date from that method. I'm just sick of the BS. I don't even know if a relationship would make me happy in the first place, so it's hard to justify jumping through hoops, playing the mind games, wasting the money, spending the time....for something I don't even think would be all that great anyway. The bottom line is I'm much happier when I'm not dating. It's stressful for me, there's nothing "fun" about dating at all. I'd rather not have anything to do with it. Unless a girl throws herself at me, I'm not pursuing anything with anyone. Too many other things in life to enjoy that are worth the effort.
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