Username37 Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 every time i think of a good memory that my ex and i shared, she's somewhere thinking about a good memory too. It gives me a boost of happiness but it later brings me down because i realize for a damn fact that it's not true and she doesn't give a damn about me anymore. have any of you had this feeling? and do you believe dumpers think about the good times and maybe miss it to the point where they'll contact you?
yume Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Generally I think that my ex no longer thinks about me in any way shape or form...what reason does he have to do so anyways? But when we broke up the first time I thought the same thing and he was in fact thinking about me...so I really don't know. This time around I'm fairly sure he isn't, because I've gotten a huge dose of "I don't live in the past" from him. Frankly, I don't even know who he is anymore. There is always that hope though that they will contact you because they miss you. Doubtful it'll happen, but it's still there.
Treasa Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 I certainly wouldn't waste time thinking about it. Whether they are or not, you should be focused on living your life. And I wouldn't spend a lot of time thinking about them if you can help it. DO ANYTHING to take your mind off them.
Nikki Sahagin Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 I know my ex has 'thought about me' and contacted me but still you find yourself questioning their motivations and coming across either as paranoid and unfounded or as too naive and hopeful.
spriggig Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Yes. And, you're doing the right thing by posting here instead of contacting her. When I feel this, I visualize her looking me in the eye and saying "Maybe when I cared". Which she did back when I tried to explain how I thought we could make it work. She's not coming back.
teanoranges Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 You know what helped me with that? When I would think of him thinking of the same memory/idea as me... I would think of his new girl... and assume that's what he must have started thinking about at THAT second... works like a charm... I quit thinking of him that way.
LoveTruthChaos Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 Oh teanoranges, thank you! I think that THAT's more like the truth when I feel that mine's thinking about me. Although, I know that for the last few days I've been on his mind 24/7. I KNOW this. It's not a matter of speculation, and I have good reason to know this but the story is too long. His new gf is WAY far from his mind now! So that's helped me heal a lot. Anyway, I'm doing a little better by the day. I think I just got past my 3rd anger stage (and I'm sure not the last). I mainly stopped being angry coz I know he's thinking of me constantly
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