Is she cheating on me again?

[Butchannon]

I found out my girlfriend has secret facebook profile since she deleted her original. She added all of her previous friends to her new profile except me. And I found out that she communicates via Facebook with some guy she has known for 5 years. This guy has recently moved in the city near her. They sent eachother hearts via Facebook, he writes he misses someone, they are in the same groups regarding love etc.

 

 

He knows we have little daughter but it seems he doesn't care at all and my girlfriend either. He has looked at my profile where I have our daughter in hands and he has noticed rings on my fingers and he asked her if we were married or engaged. We were engaged.

 

 

 

Girlfriend says he has a medical condition (serious heart disease) and he has bad prognosis and she feels very sorry for him. She says he wants to be with her but she supposed to say him that she doesn't want the relationship with him. She says that she has seen him only once since we are separated and trying to solve things between us and that her friends were with them that time. But some of her friends asked her if they have a relationship. I ask myself why would she has asked that her?

 

 

 

My girlfriend says he is only a friend and that she wants to be only with me and our daughter. But since she was a serial cheater in the past (my topic She cheated on me and we have a child) I think I can't trust her. I think she is cheating on me again I am so sad and can't take it anymore...

[lolapalooza]

I went back and read your other threads. I'm sorry to say, but this girl does not see you as her boyfriend. You are the father of her baby, that's it. She wants nothing to do with you other than that. You are not her boyfriend. She is not cheating on you because you do not have a relationship. You keep trying to make one though. Even tried to fool this board into thinking she was your wife, when she is not.

 

She is a serial cheater. She was bound to get pregnant sooner or later. You were just the unlucky donor. She's given you genital warts, and now she's out giving them to someone else.

 

What you are not getting through your brain is this girl wants nothing to do with you. Her parents don't like you, and they let her do what she wants. She wants to sleep around. She has to be nice to you because you provide financial support to the child, and you are the father. That is the extent of the relationship.

 

Once you finally grasp that you have no future with this girl, you can decide what to do about the baby. But stop making up a relationship where none exists. Sorry about that.

Edited June 27, 2010 by lolapalooza

[Butchannon]

I am not english so I didn't know that spouse means we are married and I didn't try to fool this board. I am sorry for that.

 

I don't know why she says she wants future with me and our daughter. She says that she will come to my place on Thursday when she finishes with her exams. She says that she IS in relationship with me. I asked her to decide with which she wants to be and that if she decide for another I will be ok with it. Why she says that she wanna be with me?

Edited June 27, 2010 by Butchannon

[lolapalooza]

Because you've been a fool so far. She's received support for her baby and still been allowed to sleep around. So far, she's got everything she wanted. She locked you out of her FB so she could continue a relationship with another man. Why do you think that if she moves in with you, that she will stop cheating? She's never been faithful to you, why would she start now?

[Cracker Jack]

Your girlfriend is not only a serial cheater, but also a serial liar. How old are you guys, again?

 

I read your previous topics, and I honestly feel sorry for you. She knows you're a good man, which is why she's going to keep cheating on you and basically leech off of you as much as she can. Dude, she's scum; everything you don't want in a woman. You needn't focus on building your family with her; you should focus on raising your daughter without her. She's already cheating on you as we speak, but you keep letting her off the hook.

 

Stand up to her and stop allowing this madness to take place under your nose. She's a bad apple.

[Chrome Barracuda]

God you need a damn lawyer asap!!!

 

Stop talking to her about being together, tell her you dont want her anymore and that you'll se her in court. You need to move on!!!

 

Dont you get it. Seriously this happened alot and now it's happening again?

 

Why are you putting up with this crap?

[Butchannon]

I am 27 and she is 23. And every saturda, when i am at hers she want to kiss me and make love with me. She says she loves me all the time.

[Chrome Barracuda]

It's called MANIPLUATION!!!

 

try looking it up at times, she uses sex like a weapon because you allow it, put some stone cold business of you leaving in the equation for something better, things can be different, but this woman will never learn.

 

Why are you settling for a woman who treats you like dirt? wtf is wrong with you?

[LucreziaBorgia]

I am 27 and she is 23. And every saturda, when i am at hers she want to kiss me and make love with me. She says she loves me all the time.

 

Why would a few hours on a Saturday outweigh every other day, hour and minute she treats you like garbage?

[Green]

I'd get a DNA test for that kid... MIGHT NOT EVEN BE YOURS. I apologize if that was out of line but I'd be thinking it since you call her a SERIAL CHEATER.

 

Look you have kid with this woman so I think you need to respect and look after her to the degree that is good for your kid (if it is yours).

 

But you need to distance yourself from her romanticaly because SHE IS AND WILL CONTINUE TO CHEAT ON YOU. YOU KNOW IT

[Butchannon]

I made dna and kid is mine. She didn't allow me to do it so I have done it secretly with homeset. You can read whole my situation in my previous topic She cheated on me and we have a child.

Edited June 27, 2010 by Butchannon

[U2RockZz]

....run....run like hell....you both are not even married, i don't understand what is that keeping you in there

[Butchannon]

I don't know why I still wanna be with her after all that... I think I have major problems with self-confidence and I think I don't deserve better and that I won't be able to find new GF because I have a child.

[Cracker Jack]

Why do you believe you don't deserve better?

 

Just think, man!! She's already put you through enough hell as it is. Her kissing you and telling you she wants to be with you means nothing. She's young and naive, and apparently doesn't give a **** about motherhood. Open your eyes more, dude! She's worthless. Why build a family with someone who has the potential to bring you diseases?!

[U2RockZz]

either you are deaf or dumb.....you don't ruin your life for some chick.....there is more to life than a chick in your bed...get real...don't read/see worthless romantic novels/movies

[Butchannon]

I am so f**** up. I just wanted our daughter would have a normal stable family and I was trying to forgive her for her past infidelities. But it is obvious that she doesn't care for this anyway...

[Cracker Jack]

At least you understand the circumstances.

 

Just think about your daughter for a second: Would it be healthy raising her in this madness? I know the key to a healthy life for a child is to have both parents--but if one of those parents is constantly cheating and deceiving her family, what example does that set for your daughter? That it's okay to treat your family like crap because you want to have fun? Focus more on the importance of your daughters surroundings instead of your foolish girlfriend.

 

Trust me, it ain't worth it.

[U2RockZz]

if you want your kid to have stable environment...join her in a residential school or boarding school or something like that....i had been there all my life...

[david2101]

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[Woman In Blue]

Why people continually have babies with any old person who knocks them up is beyond me. Maybe if you all used a LITTLE discretion with as to WHOM you're impregnating, this ridiculous garbage wouldn't happen all the time.

 

OP, don't get any more "girlfriends" pregnant. That's number one.

 

Number two, she's all of 23 years old - HARDLY old enough to know what the hell she wants, but it sure ain't YOU on a full-time basis.

 

Get a legal custody order drawn up in the family courts and stop being a welcome mat for this moron.

 

Lastly, be more DISCRIMINATE and start using better birth control before you find yourself back here again with ANOTHER nitwit pregnant.

[Joe Normal]

Wow this is a bad situation. You need to get rid of this cheating STD-infected whore immediately.

 

She is playing you for a fool - sleeping around with other guys, exposing you to diseases, ruining the family relationship of your kid, and taking your money. She shows you just enough attention to pilfer your wallet and for you not to bitch too much, then once the cash is transferred she goes out to ride some other guy's schlong.

 

If you can't see why that situation is toxic and needs immediate termination with brutal prejudice, then more fool you.

[Butchannon]

So, on 1st July she should have come to my place. We should go in hotel first and in spa with her friend next day. But when I came to her she said to me that her mother has fainted when she told her she was leaving and her mother has cried by the our daughter. She said her mother begged to talk to me. So, I stayed alone in hotel and next day we went to spa. She told me her mother would talk to me on Saturday when I would visit my daughter. But when I visited her on Saturday, nothing really happened. Her mother was at home but she didn't talk to me. I don't know if all what my GF told me were lies or her mother changed her mind? We have fought a lot these days, I said that I would sue her because she didn't respect our deadline. She then proposed that we could see eachother three times a week but I have got to come in her city which is 190 kms from me and I don't have much money because I lost my job because of paternity leave.

She said her parents told her she could move in with me when I will have job and income. I don't know what to do... See her and my daughter four times a week and wait till I get a job or sue her? I am so confused...

 

 

I don't understand why she calls me every evening and says all the time she wants to reconcile. She also sends me messages in which she says she loves me and misses me. She said she doesn't wanna hurt her parents. Everytime I am at her place she kisses me and have sex almost every time. When we were in spa we acted like we were family. Her friends, neighbours and relatives know we are trying to reconcile and she says she wants to. I don't understand why she would do all this if she doesn't have intention to reconcile?

She also says we should meet more times a week, so now we are together 4 times a week.

[LucreziaBorgia]

I don't understand why she would do all this if she doesn't have intention to reconcile?

 

She is doing what is necessary to make sure you keep the money flowing her way.

[Butchannon]

She is doing what is necessary to make sure you keep the money flowing her way.

 

I have to pay her child support anyway. She doesn't receive any more money from me so I think it doesn't make sense? When we go somewhere together she pays half.

[Cracker Jack]

I still can't believe you're willing to spend time with this woman.

 

Wow. All of this is apart of her strategy. You just seem to keep giving her the benefit of the doubt. She's got you.