gamma1 Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Gamma you need to get more confidence dude. Read alpha's article. This thread is for peoplel like you dude. I ain't bragging I am statng that a lot of men thinks it ain't possible but it is. ANd these women aren't skanks they are nice women with careers. But when they go out they want to have fun too. So don't listen to the negative people talking all that trash. Go have yourself a ball. I don't know how to have fun when I know how sensitive most women can be. I certainly don't feel they want to be touched even lightly on the arm or joked around with on a first meeting, given bad experiences I've had. If I try what I read in alpha's article, I'll be lucky if I don't have the crap beaten out of me or screamed at. I don't think I could pull half that off. How can I be confient in something I've always failed in anyway? It would be like being confident I could build a tall building when I never even tried to hammer two pieces of wood together. It doesn't make sense.
2sure Posted June 30, 2010 Posted June 30, 2010 Hey, I'm just getting divorced. Eventually I am going to keep some of those cards.
gamma1 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Hey, I'm just getting divorced. Eventually I am going to keep some of those cards. You will have a lot of options in a bar and most guys look hotter than I do. Most guys have more expereince than I do. It's easy for women in bars to have fun and get their pick of guys. As this thread has shown, many women want the same guy.
sultry33 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I went to the bar and got plastered. I made out with 4 chicks. They were all around watching me make out with the other girls and kept coming back. I got several more numbers. I was even approached by my neighrbor who happen to be there too that we should go out and that her gf wanted to take me home for a nite cap. Off those numbers I have 2 dates tonite. I probably will only keep one and follow up with the other one later. It never fails that girls are attracted to guys who have other women. Despite what they say it's true. So my question to the women is why ya'll like that? And to my fellows go out and have fun and don't worry about one chick. They will come if the want to get in. We like competition;) not me personally.. i cannot be bothered now but it used to be fun to chat a guy up who was clearly being hit on by others..
gamma1 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 We like competition;) not me personally.. i cannot be bothered now but it used to be fun to chat a guy up who was clearly being hit on by others.. I'll give you a lot of credit for being honest. I've never been hit on, so it's better that I stay home from the bars.
sultry33 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I'll give you a lot of credit for being honest. I've never been hit on, so it's better that I stay home from the bars. Thanks cannot say im like that now but yea... I have some guy friends who get turned down all the time but hey they keep trying.. I couldnt stay home.. damn i dont even talk to the postman, id never see anyone. I go out to dance meet new people not to pull, just have fun the rest will come, surely staying home gets boring?
sally4sara Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 I'm not sure I'm buying the OP's words. The only time I've seen people making out in a social setting the way he described was at S&M bars where they did performance shows and a couple raves. On occasion, I've seen a couple in need of a room, but they didn't seem to be into taking on new players at the time as much as they were all about chewing each others face off. And in those moments, I was never tempted to join in. It just seemed seriously tacky, involved drugs I'm not interested in taking, and reminded me of science class experiments with bacteria and petri dishes. I think if a person feels goaded into joining in with a human petri dish experiment, they might be dealing with a low self esteem. In their desire to be accepted, they will want to join any "club" that gives them that sense of being accepted, even if they are playing the role of bacteria.
gamma1 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 Thanks cannot say im like that now but yea... I have some guy friends who get turned down all the time but hey they keep trying.. I couldnt stay home.. damn i dont even talk to the postman, id never see anyone. I go out to dance meet new people not to pull, just have fun the rest will come, surely staying home gets boring? It's go out and make a fool of myself or stay home and do nothing. I can start talking to a woman and almost surely another man will come over and she will be gone in mid sentence, never to say another word to me. That's if she even talks to me at all, which is unlikely. This all can be worse than staying home.
gamma1 Posted July 2, 2010 Posted July 2, 2010 (edited) I'm not sure I'm buying the OP's words. The only time I've seen people making out in a social setting the way he described was at S&M bars where they did performance shows and a couple raves. On occasion, I've seen a couple in need of a room, but they didn't seem to be into taking on new players at the time as much as they were all about chewing each others face off. And in those moments, I was never tempted to join in. It just seemed seriously tacky, involved drugs I'm not interested in taking, and reminded me of science class experiments with bacteria and petri dishes. I think if a person feels goaded into joining in with a human petri dish experiment, they might be dealing with a low self esteem. In their desire to be accepted, they will want to join any "club" that gives them that sense of being accepted, even if they are playing the role of bacteria. It's not a surprised to me at all. Even if he's exaggerating, it's surely true for someone else. Way too many women want men that are already getting attention. You may well not be one of these women, but that doesn't necessarily mean the majority of the women are the way you are. It's the same thing as a woman wanting a man with expereince. If a man is a member of the 30+ virgin club, he is almost certain to be a member of the 80+ virgin club 50 years later. It's all a crazy game anyway. Edited July 2, 2010 by gamma1
Author singlelife Posted July 3, 2010 Author Posted July 3, 2010 Maybe your right it s the competition that makes women do that. Whatever. I just having fun.
gamma1 Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 Maybe your right it s the competition that makes women do that. Whatever. I just having fun. It sounds like the abilty to just have fun is important. I don't come across as a relaxed, fun person to strangers. I can be once I get to know someone. The problem is that you can't get to know someone if they won't give you their number.
Gallaxia Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 I think it just boils down to projecting the best version of yourself, so that a person of good fit will be attracted/drawn to you. Like begets like.
gamma1 Posted July 3, 2010 Posted July 3, 2010 I've never had a first date where a woman has seen the best version of myself. I try so hard, but I make too many mistakes and before I know it, almsot every time she's seen me on one of my worst days. Most guys seem to know how to put on a show or at least be their best on the first date. I've failed every time.
Recommended Posts