guarded Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 when u fall for a woman and she 'breaks your heart'/'shoots you down' so to speak, do you men get over it quite easily or does it take you awhile to get over it? i know its circumstantial but i was just wondering if that woman you fell so hard for came back into your life would you give her a chance and pick up where you left off? or do you just think you can never feel for them the same way again? would a friendship be possible? or does the history just make it too hard?
Un-Conventional Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 It's really on a case by case basis but I think no men don't get over it quite as easily as women like to think. I think there's this misconception among women that when a man get shot down, it's like water off a ducks back and that it's no big deal on to the next one, but it's just not that simple. Do we go home and cry and moan about it? NO but our pride and ego does takes a hit and as you know a man's pride and ego is everything and he will try to protect it like his first born child. As far giving someone who break your heart/shoots you down, a second chance, that also depend on what happen and how badly you might want to be with that person. Some things can be forgiven, others cannot.
somedude81 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 When I fall for a girl and she rejects me, it takes me a couple of months to get over her. The more time I spent liking her, the longer the recovery process takes. There was a girl that I really liked who rejected me back in March. Every now and then I look back and I still get angry and feel hurt. I really liked her and thought she would have been my perfect girlfriend. Most of the girls who I have liked, I would gladly pick up right from where we left off. It all depends on what happened between us. Friendship would not be possible because I want to be inmate with them, not their friend. The best thing to help the healing process is to get together with a different girl. If I had a girlfriend, I should be able to be friends with the girls that have rejected me.
Cracker Jack Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 (edited) Yeah, it always took me a while. Main reason why was because I "thought" there were signs that showed them being interested. Back in my younger days, it wouldn't take long for me to get over it--but the older I got, the harder it became the handle. I know many say you should just get over it, but it ain't that easy. A few I've picked up where I left off in terms of friendship, but some just drifted apart from me because of awkwardness. Meh. Could never pick back up in a romantic way because they didn't feel the same as me. And most of the rejections (Never faced a lot because I barely try) I happened to face were from friends, so it wasn't a stranger or anything, meaning they were in my life even after the rejection. Edited June 26, 2010 by Cracker Jack
Bangle Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I am able to get over women very quickly, it's the bitterness and resentment towards rejection that takes a lot longer to subside, but fortunately for me, my latest rejection has been met well by me lol.
Confused100 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I'm horrible. When I fall for a woman, I usually fall really hard for her... It takes me forever to move on. Usually it's when I can get interested in someone else, but that can take a long time. And then once I get interested in that new person, I fall into the cycle all over again.
skydiveaddict Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I'm horrible. When I fall for a woman, I usually fall really hard for her... It takes me forever to move on. Usually it's when I can get interested in someone else, but that can take a long time. And then once I get interested in that new person, I fall into the cycle all over again. you and me could be twins
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