halfwaygone Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I hate dribbling on about every detail so i won't but basically in OCT 08 i started a new job. Immediately met and started working with a lovely guy called Jeff. We had an instant attraction and spent 1 year flirting, dreaming, hinting, not being sure what eachother thought, until finally it came to a point where we ould not hide it any longer. We finally got together a year after we met and it was amazing. Chemistry, attraction, we clicked, loved the same music and so on and so on. And after a year of crushing on eachother it was certainly like a dream for us both. He met my family on new years eve (nothing formal) and he liked them all was well. Then he got a little distant. Turns out he was told that a transfer 1700kms up north had come through. COmpletely out of the blue. HE never thought it would happen and had even forgot about it. It was his dream to move up north to start a fishing business. He has turned it down once in the past and was battling in his head what to do. Because he said meting me was obviously meant to be. So he went. He stopped in at my place before he left, it was tough. My heart broke i sobbed in the dark all night. He got one hour up the road and nearly turned back. But he had a job and a unit to go to so he had to continue. Besides i knew he had to to do it to be sure...i tried to support him and gave him a gift and a card which he loved. We tried long distance... for about 3 weeks. Not good. I regret not trying harder but at the time i was so miserable and hurt and didn't se the point if he had no set plans to come back.. So we went no contact....well him more so. I sent him a text or a message on facebook every now and then...no reply. He did at one point say it was too hard and we needed time to get over things. SO last night i sent a message stating all the things that remind me of him/us. Little things, our things. I knew he''d check his messages after work but i did not expect a reply. But he replied. He said he is coming down in the next few weeks and he will try and stay in touch more....and that he hopes i'm well. This is after he read my soppy message about all the things i miss. WOuld he bother mentioning he is coming down if he didn't want to see me??? Is it likely he is now over me and can deal with it? I can't imagine us seeing eachother and ont still feeling something? Could he be rethinking??? It seems odd that he would reply to my one lovesick message out of all of the polite/friendly ones...
Author halfwaygone Posted June 26, 2010 Author Posted June 26, 2010 Anyone? Sorry i have no one to talk to about this at the moment and would love some thoughts? He doesn't open up easily.... so do you think him finally replying (to my sweet message) and mentioning he is coming down in a few weeks is a sign he wants to at least see me? He knows how hard this has been for me, surely he wouldn't say this if he had no feelings in return or something? Ugh sorry... i should go get some sleep
anne1707 Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Halfway Please be careful - do not read too much into what he has said which after all is very little. He has not actually suggested meeting and has only made a vague hint at keeping in touch. This really does not sound like he wants to start dating again. It may be worth you having a look at this thread to help you work on NC: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/
vivrantflo Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 It sounds like he does care about you as a person, and cares a lot about how you feel. I believe that's genuine.. but as for romantic interest, I don't see any of it. He doesn't respond to you most of the time, cause he doesn't want to lead you on. He finally wrote back, cause he does care about you, and respect you. However, if he was interested, he would be mentioning feelings, and looking forward to seeing you, and leaving you messages on Facebook. He doesn't. He's not interested in anything romantic, so knowing this, you have to decide how you want this friendship to continue. I personally think you should move on, and try your best not to expect anything from Jeff Good luck!
Author halfwaygone Posted June 27, 2010 Author Posted June 27, 2010 (edited) He was the one that wanted to try the long distance... he was having thoughts that he'd made the wrong decision and even suggested he might want to come back because being up there is not what he had thought it would be. I was the one who kind of let things end.... But i was not strong enough at the time and had to adjust to this whole new life of not being with him 4-5 days a week..i was hurt etc. But at the end of the day i know he is worth it all and i feel like i made a huge mistake. gosh this is an awful thing to feel. So out of control, my heart aches for him every day. It always has. The thing is i know he would not try to string me along or let me get my hopes up, so i don't think he would mention that he is coming down in a few weeks if he wasn't at least curious about seeing me...Because that message i sent him about all the things i miss definitely indicated i still have feelings for him and he would have known that i would want to see him.... IYKWIM? thankyou for responding by the way Edited June 27, 2010 by halfwaygone
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