Author unluckyagain Posted September 23, 2010 Author Posted September 23, 2010 I was more thinking of writing something not in the hope of reconciliation, but more to get it all out, give myself some closure and move on.
BlueMoonshine Posted September 24, 2010 Posted September 24, 2010 Unlucky, You did her a favor by meeting her...the ball is 100% in her court. In fact, you could have gone NC, but everyone knows that easy said than done...but whatever - you gave her your time over coffee, so there's no more you can possibly do....she sounds like she has self-esteem issues and she needs to sort them out otherwise you'll be on a rollercoaster for life with this girl.....if she wants you back she needs to come to you! There is no other way. I have my own similar story and I'm feeling greater pride and self-dignity about doing NC (mine is actually cordial contact as I work with the girl). Keep busy man and you'll slowly get over the hurt and pain. Eat good, pump the weights, keep growing that curly hair.... I'm sorry it didn't work out, but one day you will find someone who will BLOW this girl away in terms of compatibility. It will happen man as I can tell you're a go-getter and confident dude. Move on with things, it's is the only way.
Author unluckyagain Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 Emotions have settled now after a weekend. I am not going to write a letter. Lets put it this way. We met up I had way more to tell her about what has been happening in my life (promotion, holiday etc). She liked hearing my stories and made her laugh a couple of times. Not much has been happening for her lately she said. I have held my head high, gave the impression things are going well in life (and they are when you put is in perspective besides being dumped!). I have come across as a strong person and I think anything else I would do (such as writing a letter) would only weaken that perspective. Ball in 100% in her court now and she will have to bring up the past when (or if) she is ready. I will be focusing on myself again. Perhaps I should stop reading these forums too. They have been great so far, but also bring up the past. A bit of a double edged sword
Author unluckyagain Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 So, just thought I would post here and get things off my chest. No reconcilation story here, but slowly moving on. Am I over her? Most defintely not, but I have made no attempt to contact her. She is still a friend on facebook, but I don't look up her profile. She has made comments on a couple of my facebook status updates, but I have not responded to them. I randomly bumped into her house mate last week on a night out and I didn't bring up my ex. She did bring it up and mentioned that she can't understand/baffled why my ex broke up with me. I told her this wasn't really the place to talk about it and changed the topic of conversation. This last month a lot has happened. I decided a way to perhaps move on was to start dating again. I haven't really put much effort into things, but seem to be having results. Hooked up with one girl who wat technically broken up with her bfriend for one day, but this was an alcohol fuelled instance. And at the moment dating two girls. I feel totally indifferent about both of them, but have fun when dating either of them. They don't know about each other, but this is still early stages dating wise. I am normally not like that, dating multiple people at the same time. At the moment I don't want a serious relationship as I know I am not over my ex, but still want to get over her and have some fun at the same time. It is kind of odd as I did make the concious decision to start dating again, but haven't really been trying but getting more success them ever. not sure what I am doing is the right thing and I am still very very confused / heartbroken. But f*** it, it is all about me for the time being. And it feels nice having two people who are into me and being chased by them.
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