jeremy_s Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 my girlfriend of 1 year 1 month broke up with me cause of her mental unstable problems cause its to hard for her to have a bf right now I care dearly for her and helped her out throught out all of her appointments with the doctor and psychiatrist and she broke up with me a little after that. She is very confused on if we are going to get back together when she is ready but she still talks to me every night and its been about 4 days almost 5 since the break up. Yesterday she was gonna come over and see me and I don't know what what gonna happen if it was gonna be bad or just the occasional hangout. she said we weren't maturing together or proceeding with our lifes which is true but also because of her problems that happened i was too busy helping her out but I didn't mind like I said i really love this girl with all my heart. I know she isn't going out hooking up with every guy there is so thats not on my mind.I just don't know what to do , and i have this strong feeling that I don't know what is going to happen but of course that is a feeling but I just don't know what to think anymore or what to do in a situation like this I do want to wait and see. Just everyday every min. seems like hours i can't sleep good I can't eat good I am a complete mess right now. Please help I need serious advice. thank you.
nihilanth100 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Like you said in my thread, you're not alone. Be strong jeremy, and begin helping yourself. It seems like you put all your effort into her and let yourself fall. You need to bring yourself back up to bring her up. Start sleeping, start eating, those are so important. I hope this little advice can help you get through until someone with more wisdom can give a better answer.
GrayClouds Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Sorry about your loss. It sound like she does not know what she wants and people like that hurts other people. It hard but it is time to take care of yourself. Your not going to do anyone any good until you can do good for yourself. Fist of all you have to eliminate contact otherwise it just keep you bleeding. Then you have to make sure you start treating yourself well, reading this will help: The No Contact Guide Do as it says it will help.
Author jeremy_s Posted June 26, 2010 Author Posted June 26, 2010 thanks for that gray clouds but what if my girlfriend is going through emotional problems and doesnt trust anyone but me? she has some but she trusts me the most of all of them.
usagi Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 thanks for that gray clouds but what if my girlfriend is going through emotional problems and doesnt trust anyone but me? she has some but she trusts me the most of all of them. It's difficult but you have to step away even quicker in these cases. You can't be dispassionate in your attitude towards her and you have your own vested interests whenever you give her advice. If she is getting counselling then hopefully this will help her but more often than not people give this up quickly after not seeing immediate results. The important thing here is to make sure you don't get dragged down into her insecurities / depression. You may believe you are strong enough to help her without that happening but these things have a way of getting under your skin and hitting you hard later on.
LoveTruthChaos Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 The important thing here is to make sure you don't get dragged down into her insecurities / depression. You may believe you are strong enough to help her without that happening but these things have a way of getting under your skin and hitting you hard later on. VERY true. Listen to this. It can hit you in ways you never thought possible.
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