The Lone Wolf Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Hello, I'm new to the forum I assume it's ok to post threads on your first day? I met a girl at a party and she went home with me that night, I have been seeing her for a few weeks now and I was wondering if I should be with her... I am 25 and she is in high school, (17) is it fine for me to be with her or is this wrong because of the age difference?
tomcruise Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I don't see any age difference. Only 7 years it's nothing. I am 52 years old I now with my 33 years old girl friend should I think about breakup?
aerogurl87 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Wait a year, she's not legal yet and if things head south between you two this could get ugly. With that said, 7 years isn't that bad of a difference as long as both parties are legal. And as of now, she's jailbait for you.
Blade Runner Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Wait a year, she's not legal yet[/Quote] 16 is the legal age in Canada, I thought?
Confusedalways Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Assuming it's legal in Canada... This blows my mind. I can't imagine having anything in common with a 17 year old, and I'm younger than you are. But I guess that's neither here nor there, if you like her and you guys are okay with it [and its legal...] then, more power to you, I guess...?
Blade Runner Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 (edited) I don't see how it would blow your mind. I meet plenty of women in their early 20's who have a) no interesting hobbies, b) spend all their spare time out clubbing and dressing in atricious outfits they got from (chain store here), c)cannot hold a conversation about anything that doesn't revolve around themselves d)caught up in the whole "playing house is fun!" thing. This is by no means the majority, but if you've got women in their early-late 20's that act this way, then surely you've also got 17 year olds who are plenty mature enough to be with a 25 year old. Okay so there is a chance once the relationship starts going they realize that they're in two different worlds, but it can work out. It depends! I have a friend who is just 18, writes for a magazine, lives in an apartment, is extremely intelligent, is great company. She dates guys mostly in their mid 20's and it works out fine. OP I say go for it if you feel you have more than just a physical thing going on. If you seem to be able to have really great conversations, have a lot of fun together etc - why not. Just make sure both parties are well aware about each others lifestyles. ie if you have a job that keeps you very busy etc. Edited June 26, 2010 by Blade Runner
aerogurl87 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 16 is the legal age in Canada, I thought? I just looked it up and your right. But it also says that depending on the age difference and amount of time in which the relationship developed, and how it developed a judge could still charge the older party with sexual exploitation. But I have nothing against age differences in relationships, my ex was 30 when I was 19 and my boyfriend now is 18 and I'm 19. Oh and he's Canadian.
Confusedalways Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I don't see how it would blow your mind. I meet plenty of women in their early 20's who have a) no interesting hobbies, b) spend all their spare time out clubbing and dressing in atricious outfits they got from (chain store here), c)cannot hold a conversation about anything that doesn't revolve around themselves d)caught up in the whole "playing house is fun!" thing. This is by no means the majority, but if you've got women in their early-late 20's that act this way, then surely you've also got 17 year olds who are plenty mature enough to be with a 25 year old. Okay so there is a chance once the relationship starts going they realize that they're in two different worlds, but it can work out. It depends! I have a friend who is just 18, writes for a magazine, lives in an apartment, is extremely intelligent, is great company. She dates guys mostly in their mid 20's and it works out fine. OP I say go for it if you feel you have more than just a physical thing going on. If you seem to be able to have really great conversations, have a lot of fun together etc - why not. Just make sure both parties are well aware about each others lifestyles. ie if you have a job that keeps you very busy etc. You really don't see how it blows my mind? Seriously? There's a big difference between someone who is a 17 year old in high school and a 25 year old man. You're talking about exceptions, I'm talking about majority. Anyway OP, like I said in my first post, if you both are okay with it then enjoy.
Blade Runner Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 You're talking about exceptions, I'm talking about majority[/Quote] Oh - I know. I realize that. But since there are exceptions, it only makes sense for the OP to consider if his is one or not, that's all. Peace.
trippi1432 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 In my opinion, I think it depends on the couple and how they view the age difference. For most men, they tend to go for the younger women if they are over 30 it seems. For the ones in their 20's, I've noticed them going for the older women...not sure if those really last though. Both of my ex's were a little younger than me by 1 to 3 years. I did have a boyfriend once who was 16 years my elder when I was in my 20's. That was probably the better relationship due to the maturity of the man, we just had issues with agreeing on our kids....hard when blending families. At the stage of life I am currently...I tend to look at a span of 10 years older and maybe 7 years younger depending on the emotional intelligence and maturity of the man. I agree with the legalities of dating someone under the age of 18...depends on the laws in that area.....but, you are both young....lots to learn about life and relationships. Another thing I've noticed in my age group that amazes me is how many men there are out there that have never been married and have no kids.....(red flag?) :o
aerogurl87 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Lol I meant 18 and I'm 20, sorry for the mistype I was half sleep.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Assuming it's legal in Canada... This blows my mind. I can't imagine having anything in common with a 17 year old, and I'm younger than you are. But I guess that's neither here nor there, if you like her and you guys are okay with it [and its legal...] then, more power to you, I guess...? Ever hear of "she was 16 going on 30" or one of those kind of analogies with differing numbers. A 17 year old would probably not be up to my intellectual standards as I am twice the age of the guy in this scenario--and oh what a time to have lived through and with the smarty pantses I did. But if it's legal in Canada and this dude's 25, it sounds like it could be real hot with no reason to compete intellectually. Go for it.
that girl Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 She's 17 and she went home with you? Doesn't she have a curfew and parents who notice whether or not she comes home. In theory, eight years is not a huge age gap and you don't seem to be breaking any laws. But a 25 year old guy shouldn't be dating anyone whose age ends in teen in my humble opinion. It is too big a gap, she's in high school and you're a grown up.
treyfan88 Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Oy. 17 is very young. But then, there's not much I can say since I was only 17 when I met my boyfriend and 18 when I started going out with him (he was 29 at the time). We are still together but our relationship has drastically changed. I am NOT the same person I was 4yrs ago. And yeah, I thought I was super mature at 17 too...but looking back now (in just 4yrs) I can see that I really wasn't, LOL! And I'm sure when I'm 25 I'll look back at the 21-yr-old me and think: "WTF was I THINKING?!" But that's how it works. I'm still growing. It takes people YEARS to fully mature. Some never make it. But 17 isn't it. I say go for it only if you realize your 17yr old girlfriend won't be the same in a year. She will begin to make up her own mind about things and perhaps what impressed her at 17 won't cut it at 18 or 19. She will learn more about the world and about herself. Her personality is still taking form--so be prepared for all sorts of changes. She could very well be a completely different person by the time she's 24.
kendra.keith Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Hello, I'm new to the forum I assume it's ok to post threads on your first day? I met a girl at a party and she went home with me that night, I have been seeing her for a few weeks now and I was wondering if I should be with her... I am 25 and she is in high school, (17) is it fine for me to be with her or is this wrong because of the age difference? hmmmm.. she's really young.. are you really into younger women? why don't you try dating someone your own age? not that it's wrong.. but younger girls are often naive.. you may want to avoid taking advantage of that.. just a thought...
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