whiterook Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 (edited) Hi guys, I need some help. So lately I've been feeling kind of jealous of my boyfriend. He has a ton of friends (most of them are pretty girls) and they get drunk and party every couple of weekends. He'll call me the next day and tell me "Oh, you could've come and partied with us if you wanted to," But he never tells me ahead of time, which makes me not know about the parties, which makes me not able to come. He talks about them a lot, he especially speaks of this girl Rachel who lives far away. "I love to call her when I'm drunk, she's so cool." It rips out my heart every time because whenever I party (which is rare) all I want to do is call him and be with him. He seems to want to be with Rachel and his friends. I want to talk to him about this, but it hurts too much to talk about, otherwise I would have already. He says that he loves me, and I believe him, I just feel like he never wants to do anything fun with me. What should I do? And now, all I want to do is make him jealous. I hate that I feel that way and I wish I didn't; in the past I've done everything I could to keep him from feeling jealous. But now it's different. Edited June 26, 2010 by whiterook
Blade Runner Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Forget about wasting your time making him jealous. 1. Talk to him about the fact that he doesn't tell you about the parties AHEAD of time. 2. Talk to him about his comments regarding those girls and how he likes to call them on the phone. If he doesn't seem to care about any of this or doesn't make the correct adjustments, then just get rid of him and move onto a guy that values your company, and wants to hang around you, invite you to parties...plenty of guys like that. Good luck.
imagine Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Think about it W, why would he not invite you to a party. Would you say that he is embarrassed of you? Would you say that he is committed to you? You are a shag to him. He will be disappointed to see his shag walk away. Find someone who cares.
Maggotface Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Do you even like to party? I would just jump right to leaving him but this definitly is a problem. I don't think it'll be a difficult thing to bring up, just be honest and tell him you're jelous of these girls he talks about and you're not happy. If he cares about your happiness it should be an easy fix.
sarah1268 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 wow, I cant believe he treats you like that. Im 19 and my bf is 20. And we go to every single party together. We come as a pair, the fact that your bf rubs it in only after the event is so mean. Even if I cant make it to a party or something I at least get a druken call or something.... I think he might want time away from you to get other girls. My advice is let him know how you feel and if he still goes out without you all the time let him go!
TheLoneSock Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 He sounds like a little boy, trying to make his girlfriend feel insecure/jealous. It's working too, isn't it? If you're not up for dumping him yet, you could go the route of indifference. Tell him you don't care to hear about his party nights and his drunken conversations with other girls. If he gets defensive/shocked/innocent and asks you why, tell him there is no point in what he's doing other than to make you feel bad - and that he should grow up and get a set of NUTS.
Recommended Posts