Viking Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Is this a bad idea? What are the pros and cons of calling an ex-gf to ask her for advice on your current relationship? The girl I'm dating now and my ex are similar in that they're pretty independent and need their space to feel like their own person. I don't want to mess up my current relationship like I did my last. Thanks!
Serenitynow Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 obviously since you haven't gave any info on what terms you are on with your ex, no one can give a educated answer to your question. Do you talk with your ex as friends on a regular basis ? How long has it been since you talked with your ex ? Do you or her still have a negative feeling toward one another ?
Author Viking Posted June 26, 2010 Author Posted June 26, 2010 obviously since you haven't gave any info on what terms you are on with your ex, no one can give a educated answer to your question. Do you talk with your ex as friends on a regular basis ? How long has it been since you talked with your ex ? Do you or her still have a negative feeling toward one another ? No, I haven't talked to my ex since I bumped into her at the men's alumni lacrosse game I played in last October. I do not harbor any more negative feelings towards her like I used to. I have gotten over her and moved on. I am pretty sure I could trust her, but it might be kinda awkward. I don't know...
Diezel Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 BAD idea. "Hey ex, can you give me some sound advice on this new girl I'm dating that is VERY similar to you?" You're better off asking people at LS for advice. I've always been firm that any advice from women about other women should be taken with a grain of salt, given that it's always situational... but when it's the ex you're asking... what you are really asking for is trouble.
make me believe Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 No way. I think it's incredibly inappropriate to involve your ex in your new relationship in ANY way.
Confusedalways Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Pros: nothing. Cons: everything. No. She's not going to help you anymore than a friend /any of us can help you. It's silly to get her involved.
Author Viking Posted June 27, 2010 Author Posted June 27, 2010 Yeah, so I got kinda the same answer from a coworker and she said not to because my GF might freak out or be worried as to why I was talking to an ex gf. I figured it was a bad idea, but I was also thinking that maybe it would offer insight into how to possibly avoid a similar result to my last relationship. I guess I just try to control the uncontrollable too much. I need to relax and "Let it Be" so to speak. That is one thing that I have trouble with. I am not very good at being patient and taking chances when it comes to my emotional well being. I want things to end up a certain way and then I set out to make it so...
that girl Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Yeah, this has bad idea written all over it. It would be one thing if you were single and wanted to hash out what led to your breakup (which is generally a bad idea), but "hey my new girlfriend is just like you ex girlfriend" is likely to freak your ex out and offend your current girlfriend. Do you have any close female friends, a sister or a female cousin you could talk to?
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