solefunknfresh Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 We have been together for 9 months. Officially 5 months. Long distance was a first for both of us. He is 24 and I am 22. broken up now almost a month over insecurity issues. he snooped and saw something that seemed like i was interested in another guy. i was the one that suggested to be friends till he figured out. then i begged for him back. he insisted he needed time and wasn't sure if he was ready to be in a relationship. i found out that he disrespected me to a friend by sharing my emotions and not defending me. last time we saw each other in person, we both kind of said let's be friends for now. Timing: broke up around memorial day weekend so end of may. he had a family trip to the Philippines lined up around June 17th, and hasn't gone back for 3 years. won't be back till july 4th. MOST RECENT CONTACT: Before he left for his trip, he had given me a facebook message: "Hey! Just wanted to say sorry for disrespecting you. I wasnt thinking and i regret everything i did. You really made me smile whenever i was with you. I know i have to get over my problems and let go. You were a great GF and i still do have love for you. thanks for everything Bee. I know we will be really good bestest friends. haha. This is best for both of us. Well just wanted to say sorry again before i leave for the Philippines. Also, any request for what you want? a pound of Ding Dongs? haha Alright Bee. I will see you sometime in the summer and we still need to go Magic Mountain. Be safe, have fun, no freaking (haha jk) but take care of yourself..I know you can because you're such a strong girl. Alright Bee. BYE!" i didn't respond to this and the next morning, he sent me an im saying "hey. i'm at the HK airport. you're probably sleeping. just wanted to say HI! ok bye." should i practice NC? should i tell him that i can't be friends or just act indifferent and try to move on? should i be his friend and see where it goes?should i wait till after his vacation to do anything? did he already close the door on us? can a vacation clear someone's mind or aid in moving on? i feel like at this point, we both handled the situation wrong. everything is just a misunderstanding and i wish he would give us another chance.
GrayClouds Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Yes in three different post, you have expressed you desire for a second chance. It obvious your in a good deal of pain. Sorry to say they usually do not happen and when they do, does not last. Again I highly suggest reading the following and do as it says, if feels counter intuitive but what it tells you to do is your best chance: You may want to boil this down to a paragraph, it hard to get thoughful response with that much information. In the mean time read the following link and do as it says it will be your best option: So you want a second chance? Good luck.
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