spiegel27 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 (edited) Hey everyone I have known my GF for 5 months, been dating her for 3 and at first we would call and text one another all day long. I know that can't last forever but she recently has been slowing down the amount of times she calls or texts, almost as if she has become more comfortable with not having to call as much. She works all day and can't answer her phone due to how busy her job is, so when she gets out of work she calls to tell me where she is going and that she will call me when she gets home or when she is in for the night. Should I be okay with that? She use to text me a lot and its what I am use to, now its "hey babe going out with the girls to club XYZ call you when I get home." I don't think any guy likes the idea of her going to a club for 6 hours without a simple text saying "hey im having fun just saying hi ttyl." Is that asking for too much?? Just a few facts to consider also is we live 5 hours away and see each other every other week for 5-7 days. So its not like we see each all the time. We are both in our early 20's and we also both have always wanted to move to Florida and are moving together towards end of August, she has recently told me in a conversation on the phone that her worse fear is we move out there together and I leave her or we break up and she is left on defending for herself, so she is a little uneasy about moving but said she is going to do it because she loves me and wants to be with me. I reassured her that would NEVER happen etc. A few nights ago she went out with her GF's and I didn't hear from her the entire night. She finally called in the morning and I was like where the hell have u been all night!? She goes "I texted you told you I was out we are not F***ing married you cant smother me!" I later found out she did text me to tell me she was spending the night at her GF's house because she had to many drinks to drive home and that she would call me in the morning. My data plan was messed up so I got her texts the next day, basically we talked she apologized said I didn't mean to say what I did etc. My main concern is am I being too crazy?? Do I have to just let her go out and not worry about her texting me?? I understand a woman needs her space, but I just got so use to her texting and calling me all day that now when she doesn't do it as often I am sitting there wondering if its something I am doing wrong or why she isn't doing it as much. Is it asking to much to send me a text while she is out and let me know she is having fun or changing locations!?? Any feedback would be greatly appreciated, thanks a bunch! =) Edited June 25, 2010 by spiegel27
hopesndreams Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 "I texted you told you I was out we are not F***ing married you cant smother me!" She has her sights on another.
make me believe Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 If you two have plans to move to another state together in August (which I think is WAY too fast considering you've only been dating for three months), you sending her a few texts shouldn't be considered "smothering" her, and she should be letting you know of her whereabouts. Additionally, if she's so serious about you that she wants to move in with you, why is she going out to the clubs all the time?? I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months and I would never text him "going to the club with the girls, later!" and then not text or call him for the rest of the night. So that has nothing to do with the length of time you've been together. Actually, if it were a casual relationship I would probably do that.. but in a committed relationship I think you owe it to your partner to check in once in awhile, particularly if you're in a situation (bar/club) that could cause the other person a bit of anxiety. I think your girlfriend is young and enjoying having a boyfriend who lives far away because then she doesn't have all the responsibilities of being in a relationship...but she gets the perks when she wants them. I would be careful if I were you. Have a talk with your gf about your expectations. Would she be cool with it if you sent her a text saying you were going out with the boys and then she didn't hear from you again until the next day?
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