Chloe00 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I need help/advice. My ex and I were broken up for almost three months. For the past three weeks, he's been on the verge of stalking me. Phoning, texting, stopping by and appearing places where I am. I had not replied or responded. That is, until my moment of weakness last Friday. I finally sent him a text and just asked what it was that he wanted from me. We ended up meeting up this past Saturday. We were together from 8am til 10pm. We talked at the beach. He was crying and apologizing for taking me for granted and how he was all finished with gambling. He wined and dined me. He said I was prettiest woman he's ever met and how in love he was with me. He claimes he wants to get married and he wants to move in with me and how he'd give me his paychecks to control the finances. For crying outloud, he even said he missed my cat! He calls me first thing Sunday morning and wants to hang out but I already had plans. So we meet up in the late afternoon and he takes me out to dinner yet again. He picks me flowers and said that he knows that I'm good for him. He calls me first thing Monday morning and asks if he can pick me up and get a cup of coffee before work. I said okay. He tells me he wants to see me every day and doesn't want to be apart from me. I told him I couldn't see him Monday night or Tuesday night because I had plans (which I did). I told him that I'm very hurt and it's going to take a while and we'd have to take things slow. Well, when I talk to him Monday afternoon...he tells me that I'm right, we should take things slow and then he starts telling me all these plans that HE has. He said we could get together either Wednesday or Thursday and Friday night, we'd go to our favorite lobster place. So the last time I spoke with him was after I called him Tuesday afternoon. That's it. It's now FRIDAY afternoon and I haven't gotten a phone call or anything. He hasn't made any plans to see me. Nothing. My questions is...how can you go from being so gung ho and missed me and loved me over the weekend to nothing. Gone. Again? I feel like I did in the beginning of our break up. I can't stop crying. Please help me understand this.
hopesndreams Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 He's either yanking your chain or giving you the space needed to miss and wonder about him.
Author Chloe00 Posted June 25, 2010 Author Posted June 25, 2010 on April 1st. I had bought us a trip to Aruba and he was just to give me his spending money to put aside. He promised he would give it to me this one Thursday a week before we were to leave. He was to pick me up at the subway and give me the money. Well, he's a gambler, and ended up down at the horse track. He called and said he was having too much fun at the track so I knew then that he'd blow of the money was going to give me. I ended up breaking up with him later that night and went on teh trip by myself. This has been the worst year so far of my life. If he was yanking my chain...isn't that pretty elaborate lengths to go about doing that?
hopesndreams Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 If he was yanking my chain...isn't that pretty elaborate lengths to go about doing that? Not really. He could be having a bad case of sour grapes. Looks like his addiction is more important, more enticing than you are. Don't settle for this, stay broken up. Sorry you had to go on that trip on your own. If this happened to me, I wouldn't want to see his face ever again.
romango Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 The odds are 20-1 that he's a gambling addict. Best forget about him before he ruins both your lives.
vivrantflo Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Or maybe, he's not calling as much, because you ASKED him to go slower.. no?? Anyway, if he has gambling issues, they definitely haven't gone away after three months of NOT having his issues addressed. Do you want him back? I'm not clear on that, because you ignored all of his attempts at contacting you, until that Friday when you sent him a text. But now that he's vanished you're upset? Do you want him back? Can you look past the gambling? Did you not dump him for a reason?
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