SteveC80 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I know im gonna get the typical fluff its whats on the inside blah blah blah but the first thing u notice about somebody is the physical and there has to be some physical attraction there to last Are people of like attractiveness level even if their not clasically attractive somehow attracted to each other by science? or do they say to themselves listen physically i cant do any better in a partner so im gonna have to tolerate this person physically rather then be extremely attracted and hope this is a great person?
VelveteenBunny Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 (edited) I'm sure some people do settle physically or they like the person for some non-physical reason, BUT with that said, some people are physically attracted to people who are NOT "classically" attractive. Some people even prefer certain traits that aren't classically desirable. And different cultures also have different preferences. While a person's culture often affects their perception of beauty, individual taste does vary. My friend in middle school claimed to be very physically attracted to one male that I personally didn't find attactive at all. I've also found men attractive that were not my friend's "type". Lots of times I've heard people disagree on whether someone was attractive or not, and this even applies to finding famous folks attractive. Also, there is something to be said for chemistry. I do believe in pheromones, and pheromones might tell me a person's dna is a great match with mine, and make me desire them physically, even if their appearance wouldn't normally appeal to me. And about that "on the inside" stuff- well, not only does on the in side stuff sometimes help people love each other as friends or romantically, sometimes traits other than physical traits, do affect if a person is aroused sexually by another individual. Edited June 25, 2010 by VelveteenBunny
always_searching Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 There was another thread about this not to long ago...I remember it got pretty ugly. (No pun intended.)
LittleMissWonder Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I think people tend to be attracted to those who are similar to themselves. They relate better that way. It is hard to separate the mental attraction from the physical. It goes hand in hand and is such an instantaneous translation in the mind that it is hard to differentiate.
New Jersey 44 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I know im gonna get the typical fluff its whats on the inside blah blah blah but the first thing u notice about somebody is the physical and there has to be some physical attraction there to last Are people of like attractiveness level even if their not clasically attractive somehow attracted to each other by science? or do they say to themselves listen physically i cant do any better in a partner so im gonna have to tolerate this person physically rather then be extremely attracted and hope this is a great person? And what is "classically attractive"? Ugly to one is hot to the next.
New Jersey 44 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I think people tend to be attracted to those who are similar to themselves. They relate better that way. It is hard to separate the mental attraction from the physical. It goes hand in hand and is such an instantaneous translation in the mind that it is hard to differentiate. Not the case. I haven't found that true.
electricity Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I've heard studies that indicate people have a subconscious tendency to be attracted to people who share similar facial features. I don't remember where so I can't be sure how true it is, but I can believe there's some effect. It's at least proven somewhat true for me. My personal experience seems to echo VelveteenBunny's. I have a couple of very close girlfriends, and never have we all agreed on the attractiveness of a man. In fact, more often than not, at least two of us will be on vehemently opposite sides, where one says a man is incredibly attractive, one says he's incredibly not, and the rest are ambivalent.
hopesndreams Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I've only been attracted to men mentally, at first. The physical, would come later. Physical flaws can be cute after spending quality time getting to know someone.
New Jersey 44 Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I've only been attracted to men mentally, at first. The physical, would come later. Physical flaws can be cute after spending quality time getting to know someone. It happens for men too. Happened to me several times.
ADF Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 I think there is probably less "settling" going on than you might think. One of the things us average-looking people learn pretty early in life is how to appreciate people for more than what they like. This isn't because we have any superior insight--we just learn it because we have to. Likewise, we learn to expect others to like us for more than our looks as well. Overall, I think this is healthy. I'll add that I have dated a couple of very good looking women, and you know what I found out? How "hot" a woman looks tells you NOTHING about ow good she is in bed. NOTHING.
alyssatranswarrior Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 People might call me shallow but I think that people form "realistic" expectations for the physical side of attraction based on their own self image. So in my case, I perceive I am an attractive biological male form, so what I look for is what I consider an attractive physical woman to match me for physical attraction. Whose to say other guys would approve of my physical choices, which btw isnt my point. I am not suggesting just because jennifer love hewitt is commonly believed to be very good looking that every guy wants to date her. A great portion wouldn't, regardless of her looks being "good" they wont have a true physical connection to her because of their self image expectations for a partner is way different than how she looks. It's not "settling", its just accepting your own image and finding a realistic partner for own self image status. Now this theory shows when you see for instance, hugh jackman, he must not think of himself in a great light. Because he chose a commonly percieved "average" wife. From my view, why commonly percieved "hot" girls end up with a guy who let himself go (and you scratch your head), it won't ONLY be because 'its on the inside that counts', but because she has self image issues and fears letting herself go at some point thus coming into line with his physical appearance wouldnt be a big deal. She doesnt want to be with a calvin klein model and let herself go, because he will be more likely to get turned on by someone on his level. (if his self image is good obv.)
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