Els Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Inspired by the thread about what we miss most about our partners. How about one about things that we like about them and the R, even while apart? Things that remind us why we're still in this and holding on. Thought it might be good motivation for some of us! I'll start with two that just came up today for me: 1) I was proofreading his CV for him when I realized... that almost sounds like me! There were differences, but far more similarities - in his interests, achievements, activities, the dry sense of humor peeping out from his description of self (I hope they don't take offense to that!)... I could just see a slightly different version of me in there. Reminds me anew of the intellectual connection that brought us together, of how alike our personalities are in so many ways. 2) When filling in his application (they list preferences and the government chooses for them), he gave preference to the location where the postgraduate university that I was most likely to go to was. This was not his own preference based on environment and work/living culture... I had asked him before, and the city he had said he would like to work in the most, was a different city. While this scares me in some ways (what if we don't make it til next year and he's stuck in a place he wouldn't have chosen if it hadn't been for me? what if the university finally doesn't want to take me? what if I change my mind about what I want to do?), on the other hand I am so, so very touched that he would select just to be with me, and it puts my doubts to rest. It reminds me that I am not alone in making a huge leap of faith so that we can be together. I think nothing compares to the sort of love it takes to weather and pull through a big challenge or a truly tough time together, including an LDR. And I count myself fortunate that through this LDR, I was able to see what a great, great guy I have.
aerogurl87 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Things that make me happy include: 1) Hearing his voice every day. I know that may sound like a simple thing but literally every time I hear his voice, my day seems to go better. 2) When he goes somewhere or does something we did together, he sometimes says "remember when we did this together" and it just makes me happy to know that he's there thinking of me. 3) Wearing his old hoodie he gave to me. It's too hot right now to wear it, lol. But sometimes when I get cold at night I put it on and it's like having his arms around me even when he's gone. 4) Hearing him talk about his future and asking for my input on things. That always let's me know I'm important to him and that he does want me in his life. 5) Looking at the videos I took of us when we were together. I have all of them up on my iPod, and sometimes when I start to really miss him or get down I just look at them. And looking at us together and how happy we were pushes me to go on and endure being away from him because I know that in the end it'll all be worth it.
madjac74 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 These topics are so helpful because just talking about her gives me that butterfly feeling in my chest. We were actually just discussing how unbelievable it is to be so happy even when we are so far apart and havent seen each other in so long. 1. Talking and laughing with her on the phone and realizing hours have gone by and then smiling the rest of the day. 2. Getting an "I love you" or "I miss u" text just at the moment that I needed it. 3. Getting a completely random text that makes me laugh at my phone and gets me weird looks from people nearby 4. remembering real dates together and still remembering every detail. Especially the stairs incident because I had to carry her on our second date and the bathroom sex attempt(we still laugh about that one) 5. Having someone so amazing to miss and think about all day. I know that sounds weird but its important Today is the 1 year anniversary of our first date. I still remember exactly how she looked the first time I saw her and how awesome our date was and how much we laughed together. I knew she was perfect for me
Spiritofnow Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 What a lovely thread, Elswyth. I love your points. I will come back to this a little closer to our visit.
JacquesA.LeFrancais Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 1. When we get on skype, which is almost daily, but when we do and spend hours upon hours there. 2. Making me slip because she fills me with butterflies making my accent get thicker. After even all this time 3. Leaving me emails to wake up to that fill me with a sense of being loved and missed 4. When we think about our past friendship and realizing how important it has always been to both of us
Mei Mei Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Things that make me happy while aparts, among those, they include: 1. To receive his sms text everyday when he awakes while I am working to tell me how much he loves and miss me always! 2. Talking in phone daily to hear each others' voices and saying love to each others, feeling so close together! 3. Meeting in cam mostly daily and having a midnite gathering which is longer to pass through two days from Sat to Sun! 3. Keep updating our inminent plans of meeting in real and revolving our master plan of marriage and permanent stay together! :love:
sally4sara Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 I remember hearing The Cure's "Love Song" every time he called. And knowing he heard The Root's "You Got Me" when I called him. Wearing his Dickie's shorts covered in his screened patches despite how ridiculously cinched up they had to be too stay on me. Knowing that I could send him two identical Monty Python Spanish Inquisition tshirts and he would immediately get the joke and call me laughing. Making sure to watch our show "together" every week
pandagirl Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Aw, these stories are so cute, but they did leave me feeling a little jealous, as my boyfriend is not very romantic or "sweet" and is usually too busy with work to even watch TV. But it's the really subtle things that matter to me -- things that I don't think he even realizes he does. Things he says in passing, like: "We're going to be together a long time, don't worry about that," or "Your mom sounds so funny, I can't wait to meet her." These aren't grand gestures of romance -- he's not that type of guy -- but, these little things show me that I am a part of his life in an ordinary, but meaningful way.
carvidep Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 (edited) -Remembering all of the good times we've had during our visits together. -The fact that he doesn't run away when I turn into a romantic sap. He actually likes it, and even joins me!! -Being in touch with his friends. They're a huge part of who he is, so if I go a day or two without talking to him, a quick conversation (about anything) with one of them can make me feel closer to him. -Getting his good morning e-mails, and the replies he sends when he's bored at work. -We send each other funny/interesting/entertaining links in almost every e-mail, and each one he sends me is always a good one. -Texting! Any time I get an incoming text and it's from him, I can't avoid the big stupid grin that spreads across my face. -Skype dates, which happen almost every day. There's plenty more, but I'll stop here for now. Edited June 27, 2010 by carvidep
woody2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 What made me happy were the phonecalls. And the pictures....And the song we liked. Some songs i couldn't listen to as i would actually cry when i heard them because i knew she liked them. Others i listened to all the time because they helped cheer me up because it was "our" song. But just hearing her voice was priceless. It's the one thing that got me through.
nemi26 Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 ooh i wish i never came on this thread :/ im so jelous of you guys skyping and phoning every day? wow really lucky, no webcam for 75days and about 2 calls a week :/ so dont take it for granted even if you aint with them irl.. (still trying to sort this calling america out)
hoping2heal Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 About my honey bunches 1.) His voice and his laugh. His voice when he is sleepy; soo cute! 2.) taking naps together w/the aid of technology he's such a cuter snore-er 3.) reading to eachother 4.)Seeing him "comb" over the cam 5.)His million dollar movie star smile!!! He's the most gorgeous man ever <3 6.)His pet names for me & his excited for me voice 7.)When he does something so sweet and thoughtful and catches me by surprise 8.) Our quick calls just to "kiss" 9.)Surprising eachother!! 10.) Spending time with him <3 Each day it's wonderful.
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