Arasae Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Okay! I'm back! This time, with someone who seems like he's actually really, really interested in me! Yay! So, I have to say, I'm kind of dating-retarded when it comes to the whole space issue. The last relationship I had, I only saw the guy 1-2 times a week and it didn't feel like nearly enough, probably because the quality of the time spent together was awful. And now, I'm in a new relationship. After tomorrow, I'll have spent four nights with this new guy (first *real* date was Monday), three of which are consecutively, but he doesn't seem like he minds. In fact, it's like he welcomes it. He's also going out of town for a week, and the week before this one, he was out of town for another week, so.. we're sorta making up for lost time. But, when he gets back, I'm thinking I should back off a little, right? How many nights should I be seeing him without having him burn out on me? As it stands right now, I have this kind of saturated feeling (I can't really describe it as anything else), but it's not a negative feeling--I still want to see him and hang out with him, but it's not like a strong urge. Thoughts? I'm SO socially retarded.
hats Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Needing space/togetherness is like eating. The longer you've gone without eating the hungrier you feel. But once you've eaten enough, you get sick of eating. Right now you've had enough, your "saturated" feeling is you feeling full, you felt the "urge" back when you were hungrier. Everyone's needs are different, so it's silly to blindly follow rules of contact. People usually give some kind of signal about how much space and time together they need. As long as he seems interested in your attention you should give it to him, and if he starts to back off you should back off as well.
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