Sister DRAMA!

[SouthernSunshine]

My sister is now homeless with her 2 year old daughter after running off in the middle of the night to party for a week with a bunch of LOSERS! Dangerous losers! Losers that hurt my niece, and told her to stop crying/shut up. Losers that said she was a "bad baby", and hit her! This information is coming from my sister after the fact. She told me this after I picked her up last night. She is now staying at my house with her child/my niece. They are now SAFE, but now what the hell am I supposed to do? They can't live with me. They have taken over my daughter's room because our spare bedroom is an office. Our mom is too poor to feed them, and her father(we have different dads) is an alcoholic. I feel like I'm all she has! It's very frustrating how this is all on my shoulders. Times like these I wish I had a half @ss normal family!

 

Her boyfriend kicked her out because she took off in the middle of the night to party. I'm so friggin stressed! I run a tight household, and we have structure. Now everything is bonkers, and it's affecting my OCD.

[Shakz]

Sunshine, are you my sister? Holy sh*t! You are totally f**ked! I'm so sorry, but you gotta admit, this is one for the books. Jesus! What the f+ck do you expect anyone to say? Keep the girl but kick the bitch out? Jesus!

[SouthernSunshine]

Sunshine, are you my sister? Holy sh*t! You are totally f**ked! I'm so sorry, but you gotta admit, this is one for the books. Jesus! What the f+ck do you expect anyone to say? Keep the girl but kick the bitch out? Jesus!

 

Yeah you're right, I'm a horrible sister.. picking them up from trash, taking her into my home, and kicking my daughter out of her room. Feeding them, giving them shelter like her mother should do. What's my problem! I guess I owe her everything right? I'm not a concerned sister with my world turned upside down right now. That's cool. I get it. What was I thinking coming here, and venting... How dare I open my mouth about my stress in having to be my sister's only provider & friend. I'm supposed to just suck it up with a smile on my face. How dare I be upset about this situation... how dare I!

 

You have no clue! Spouting off crap like you know me. Don't give me informative advice, NO.. insult me like you know me personally. That's it! Make me feel guilty when I'm the only one worth a damn in this family. Gotcha!

[quankanne]

sunshine, you know exactly what you are capable of providing and doing, and just because it's family, you don't have to do more when it means your sanity.

 

I'm glad your niece and sister have you to turn to when they needed help; however, your main responsibility is to point your sister in the right direction to help herself, because she's a grown woman. However, if it gets to a point where her daughter is suffering, *then* you step in, for the sake of the child.

 

tough love is very much a part of loving someone, and there's a time and a place for it. Frankly, this happens to be both as far as your sister is concerned, and you're not being "bad" for helping her to grow the hell up.

[SouthernSunshine]

Sunshine, are you my sister? Holy sh*t! You are totally f**ked! I'm so sorry, but you gotta admit, this is one for the books. Jesus! What the f+ck do you expect anyone to say? Keep the girl but kick the bitch out? Jesus!

 

Oh my gosh... I jumped the gun, and thought you were insulting me, SORRY! I'm so frustrated with all this! I should have thoroughly read what you posted. I'm just going stir crazy right now. I feel bad for feeling mad... UGH!

 

I called my mom this morning, and she's avoiding me now! She's not answering the phone because she knows my sister is with me. I feel so bad for my neice, and I'm so mad at my sister for putting them in this situation! SHE made the decision to run off with her baby to a dope house, SHE made the decision to put their lives in danger, now I have to be the one to take them in. IT's BS!

 

*venting hard*

[quankanne]

let those emotions run through you, and when you reach a point where you feel you can address the issue without seeing red (ah, been there many times with a certain brother of mine!), come up with a gameplan that's fair to all involved ...

 

I promise, it gets better. Or at least more bearable!

 

hugs,

quank

[Shakz]

Oh my gosh... I jumped the gun, and thought you were insulting me, SORRY! I'm so frustrated with all this! I should have thoroughly read what you posted. I'm just going stir crazy right now. I feel bad for feeling mad... UGH!

 

I called my mom this morning, and she's avoiding me now! She's not answering the phone because she knows my sister is with me. I feel so bad for my neice, and I'm so mad at my sister for putting them in this situation! SHE made the decision to run off with her baby to a dope house, SHE made the decision to put their lives in danger, now I have to be the one to take them in. IT's BS!

 

*venting hard*

 

All apoligies on my part, SS. I had a couple of glasses of brandy and I'm just one of those people who loses all inhibition when I drink. My language was terrible and I can see how you got the wrong idea. What set me off was that your situation is so much like my own sister's, only it's her husband's sister that is the problem. It sucks that you have to deal with this, and I really don't know what to say. You really are between a rock and a hard place. Maybe your sister will see this as a wake up call and get herself straightened out. I'm just afraid she'll be on and off the wagon and will see you as her rescuer over and over. Don't let that happen. Make it a condition of her living with you that she gets the professional help she needs to recover. And above all, don't let her leave with that child until she's squared away.